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they've been in for mroe than 6 months.. he wants me to change'em. i just got my headunit tooo.. but now i'm planning to stock out the car and not use it.. period. get rides to school from friends and so on.. then maybe get a job.. without a car i don't know what i'm going to do.. and get myself a little hatch.. anyone know any one sellin' one? and then put all my shiet into that.. someone give me some suggestions because i'm so fusterate with this situation i'm CRYING. i never cry.. not about this kinda stupid stuff..just mad.

 
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i think you should do whatever you want to your car..

if your making the payments and **** then you should be able to do whatever..

if not, i recommend just doing little stuff, not too much..

but maybe you can talk him outta it?!?

I dont really understand your problem, but you should try to find the best way to work it out..

 
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payments? i don't pay for anything.. NOTHING. i don't even wash my own cloths.. SMACK.. just got my first taste of reality..

 
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lol..

well i dunno then..

 
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whussup monica, havnt seen you on in awhile...
sorry to hear about this.. how come he doesnt like them anyways? its not like its an annoying, loud exhaust.
why wont you use the car? just cause you dont have rsx seats in them?

 
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And how old are you? I've been feeling that way since high school graduation. That's probably why I enjoyed basic training cuz there was nothing to worry about except training. But now that I'm back, I got a car payment, insurance, cell phone, credit card school and every other responsibility that comes with a car and no help from parents except motivation. You should just wait it out until the car is payed for, cuz right now, you got it made. Maybe we can trade parents...

 
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Hmm...well said...

 
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I Agree.. i don't get why you don't use the car when you can't live w/o one.

 
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sooo..your pop disapproves of the rsx seats and because of that, you wanna just...not drive the car period?!?!!? ....sounds a lil selfish to meeee monica dearest...especially when it's a car that they bought especially for you. if it was your car that you were payin for...then b!tch all you want about it. but the car, in reality, is a "gift" from your parents. ..probably just for the ease of you to get to school and everywhere else.... but hitchin rides from your friends and such is really gonna suck..it'd be a real real real big hassle. ..plus...like david said..all over seats not being in the car? ..not worth giving up the car and arguing w/ your daddy over it.

 
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hmmms. . .julie's right monica. .about hitching rides. . cuz i tried doing that. . when my car was in the shop and when i dind't wanna drive it with the kit on. . .they get annoyed and mad. .then start demanding gas money. . . eh. .but all on you homie. I support ya. . and everyone else ::thumbs up::

 
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word up son...

 
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its not that i want to stock out the car because i can't have the seats.. my dad feels as if i'm wasting my money and the car because its "new" and i'm fixing it up. does that mean everyone on this site is "wasting their cars." "i can't even tell if it's honda anymore." over statement? [my dad always blows things up] you sit in the driver's seat, you look on the steering wheel and its says H, HELLO! you're right julie, the car is a gift to me. therefore it is mine, no? to do what i would like with it? i can't understand why my DAD, in particular, is being so hard headed about it. he understands that i love the car. LOVE. i take care of it, i have no tickets or accidents. half the people on this site can't even say that. i've paid for all modifications myself, my mom pitched in $100 for my side skirts. i have done no engine mods except for an exhaust, just the rear section. "what are you going to do next? change the engine because he doens't have enough horsepower?" great. if you guys had kids and saw they truely loved something they were doing, wouldn't you try and help them out or try to see things their way? i don't know, my parents haven't even tried. i don't know, does my car really look that bad? n e who.. after i posted this my dad realized these seats were from honda and he isn't making me take them out. **** head, i'm not a ****ing moron. however, i know this thing with me fixing up car isn't going to go away until i get my own car or whatever so indeed. i'm thinking about just giving away my stuff like my dc stuff, stuff that only fits on my civic. it won't be till the end of summer. i'm just really really fusterated and it seems like none of my "friends" are serious enough to actually discuss this problem with. ..welcome to reality monica. huh? "i don't wanna grow, i just wanna b a toys r us kid..."

chacho.. you can have my parents.. stay home EVERYNIGHT. and no you can't work because thats considered going out.. and no army or anything military blah blah STAY home. go out once a month, if you have an excuse. sure you wanna trade parents? they'll wash your clothes, someone will clean your room for you, and everything is paid for. but you have to go everywhere with them and do what they say. have them, they're yours.

 
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btw sorry if i sound really spoiled i am.. i just need to vent.. i have no where else to vent.. so here i am on 7thgencivic.com venting. mods you can delete this if u want.. just venting...

 
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i gotta find some way to show them i don't need it/them.. [even tho i do haha]
..i'm serious about my car.. i actually like it the way it is..

 
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No thanx, I like mine letting me take control of my own stuff, besides I hate asking my parents for money, I'm my own man (aka big boy now) I was only saying that to get my clothes washed cuz I just ran out of Fabric Softener...

BTW, your parents protect you because you are their lil girl and as long as you act like it, they have no reason to believe otherwise.

I know you are mad and once I thought the same way when I still had my truck that my parents gave me, but after I got over it, I thought that was a pretty dumb thing to think.

 
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ditto

 
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so now what, you have to sell your civic???

 
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well im kinda the same way, im the only child and my parents got me my car and pay my insurance, they wash my chothes and feed me, the only stuff i pay for is when i go out, gas money, or all the mods on my car... they let me go out when ever and where ever... i just had to call them and check up at least once a night.

i had the same situation... my parents didn't want me to do anything to my car, well my dad didn't my mom didn't really care... the first thing i did was clear the head lights and pullies, my dad didn't notice it... then as i started to do little things like a intake and radio, i got my dad to understand that this car was "mine"(because i dirve it everyday) i didn't want it to be plain, to make a long story short... and he finially agreed with me... i think that you will just have to try to talk to your dad... i know its going to be a little hard since he is probly reall stubborn, and your a girl...

 
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aahha Farley. . yup. . wordemup son. . we in our own conversation. . .
this thread is done?


~LOCKED~

 
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ahhs snap . .forgot i got no mod powers. . .

 
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monica my parents are the same as you, very strict indeed about school car, and going out. they didnt want me to do anytihng to my car because i need to spend time studinyg etc...hey i can only go out once a week im turning 19 and my curfew is 11. pretty weak eh, but yeah, thats why i fight with my parents and i just put things on ym car and if they wanna take away they can go ahead, but that means i cant go to school, so their plan backfires on them, they told me they will give me the 95 civic and i told them i never wanted to give it up! lol, so yeah just talk with your parents, tell them/show them that you can make your own decisions and that you DONT need them, i think however the only way you are going to live your own life is when you make a lot of money and move out

 
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I'm sure you mean, you don't need them ALL the time, just sometimes.

 
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Hey Monica I've been there, I am the youngest of five and Im the spoiled one and I knew that too, but I didnt want to be, so I changed all of that by getting a job. When I turned 15 I got my first job and saved up for a year until I got my liscence and I got my first car. A beautiful white DA (1990 Integra) Wanted to hook it up but I was broke. After a few more jobs and a couple years I earned my parents respect, because I pay for my own car, school (scholarships, financial aide, and job money), credit cards, insurance and at one time rent, but not anymore. I've been through like 4 jobs and if you really want to earn your parents respect then get a job. By becoming financially secure it shows your parents that you have responsibility. I am currently paying off the vic but my parents helped out with the downpayment, but I'll pay them back when Im rich!!hahaahah...They dont really care what I do with the vic I guess thats because all my older bros hooked up their cars, but just reason with them.

 
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i could be really mean about this but i'll try to be sensitive and wont...
just gotta say that ITS YOUR LIFE. you dont HAVE to do anything.
i was probably even worse off, BUT i didnt get where i am now for no reason. i went through alot, to get here...
I respect my parents, they give me a place to stay. Its their house, their rules... if i'm not happy about it all i can do is 1) live with it. 2) move out.
They know i'm serious about moving out so they loosened up.
but ya i'm just saying, if you dont like their rules... do something about it instead of just bitchin about it. bitchin doesnt get you anywhere, actions do.
life is what YOU make of it

 
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dang according to david.. i should become a bum. it helps to know that i'm not the only one going through this.. so i guess i'm not alone. any way.. my mom wants me to keep the car the way it is and my dad and i haven't spoken since.. leave the car stock or keep fixing it up? btw hondaluver.. welcome to the family. anywho.. i just wanna thank everyone for their input. i was so fusterated last night i don't even remember what i said.. i couldn't sleep last night.. so i haven't had any sleep from last night till now.. its 4pm and i think i'm going to bed.. c u tomorrow afternoon!

 
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If I can put my .02 in. I can also relate about the parents over reacting. I am 20, have a 4 year old girl, engaged with my high school sweetheart (who at times is just like my parents), work and go to school full time, pay for everything I have including rent, car payment, insurance, school, etc.. My suggestion would be to start to do things that your parents would appreciate. If it is helpng clean the house, cleaning you own clothes, offering to get things for the house then do it. The more you show your willing to help them out, the less strick they may start to be. Also I hear it everytime I get a new thing for the car too like, you have a weeding to start to save for, pay your bills, spend time with your daughter, blah blah blah. You just need to start to budget better and do it in a way they can see your saving for later. Vnlilman was right, you can live with it , or move out. Honesty live with it but also help yourself to live with it. Hence the above suggestions. I hope this helps ya out in some way.

 
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"leave the car stock or keep fixing it up"
well why not a "happy medium"... why not just leave it the way it is. like you said, you already like it the way it is.
and i didnt mean for you to become a bum. just saying in order for things to change you gotta actually do something about it. it might not be easy but in the end it will.. your getting treated like this right now, what makes you think the same thing isnt going to happen in 5 years.

 
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HShadow thanx.. but everything that can be done is done by someone else. example cleaning the house, they don't even clean the house, we have a house cleaner. sometimes she cleans my clothes too. gardener does the gardening. and cook does the cooking. jk we were about to get a cook, one that lives at their own home, but then thats where we draw the line between lazy and errr inono. n e way i have started to, try and, wash my own clothes.. at first, disaster.. but now i'm okay.. anyone want my pink socks? oh and i admire your hardwork!

VNlilMAN you're right but i have side skirts and exhaust awaiting installation on my car.. and rear lip on the way.

so i'm thinking about having two jobs in the summer to maybe help me out with this car business.. i know my parents don't want me to work but sometimes it seems like my dad is constantly putting me in that situation, where i'm forced to. anywho, again, i want to thank everyone for their input becauase it has helped me to calm down and come to.

 
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u had those seats for almost 6mths and ur dad finally saw em. . .

 
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Okay, monica, my parents were the same way. How old am I now???
21!!
BUT THEY still treat me stupid like I'm 12!!!!!!!!!
Dad said no job.
Mom said yes job (because it would take up my time and no going out).
When I was in high school, I had to ask for permission to go out and beg my asssss off. It was hella embarrassing.
Later on, I really rebelled in high school and hella got in trouble. I mean like beat my *** down with a stick kind of trouble.
Okay, so now, I'm like LEGALLY an ADULT in every way, and you know what?? I do things without permission like go out in the daytime.. but when it comes down to things like clubbing (means I come home in the AM), i still have to beg and cry. It's hella stupid.
I had to ask for everything.
When I started fixing up my car, my parents were like, "It's a new car, why do u want to mess it up?? Why didn't you keep the old car and fix that one up then?" ETc, etc.... blah, blah.
Here's one for ya" you lower your car, and the rain will come in"
hahahaha
Anyways, when I was in high school and wore makeup and say ****ty clothes, I had to wipe my makeup off right before coming into the house.... ughh..
They ruled everything I did and still rule everything I do now. I have conflict with the rents since the day I turned 13. I have less conflict now, because I'm ill and my illness restricts what I can do. So how can I fight with them about going out all the time if I can't walk some days in the first place?? Plus they feel kind of sorry for me now.
My parents always used to say, "AS long as you live under our roof, you follow our rules. i don't care if you are 18. .." when I turned 21, they said, "I don't care if you are 21"
They also said, "When you are an adult and married, then you can go out and do whatever you want."
So, now I say this to my mom," When I was able and healthy and young, you didn't let me go out or do alot of stuff. Now look at me, I'm ****ing crippled some days, and I can't do anything fun for like the rest of my life. So you basically ruined everything for me by not letting me go out. You kept saying to wait til later when i was older, but now i can't do anything for the rest of my life PERIOD!!!"
Yeah, so i try to make my parents feel bad, and they tell me I'm crazy.
Anyways, ... grrr.. my parents are like chinese and overly traditional and strict.
My boyfriend also happens to be chinese, but him and his sisters can practically do anything they want to.. ....
It's just not fair!!!!!!!!
Your post really made me think. I thought I WAS THE ONLY ONE WITH ****ED UP PARENTS THAT ARE STRICT AS HELL. All my friends get to do whatever the hell they want, and I am like hella embarrassed...

Anyway after all that complaining, speaking from experience (and trust me, I have plenty), you should listen to dad and just drive car stock. If you have to sell your parts, fine. Follow his wishes for now, and go really slow and easy with stuff. Like I really rebelled for a couple years and nearly got kicked out of my house several times. They have this rule "once you leave, you can never come back"
Like i'm disowned or something.
Once, I REALLY left. I left for weeks... it was awful. Spent up my life savings in those few weeks, had nothing left...
ugh..
Staying at home is the life, but you give up your freedom.
I don't agree with your and my parents, but I think that if you want to have a "life" with clothes, car, roof over head, etc., then follow their rules.....
I do now.
haha.
cuz i'm a brokeass.