OT: Need to make a choice (long relationship thingy)
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I think the exexex was a loong time ago... therefore, the other reason could be that they were young. Now when you're more mature it's different. Different needs and wants and especially different PRIORITIES![hr]
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Msoft, if you feel that your feeling for your exexex is true and real... then I say go for it!!! It's not like you're entering a realm of the unknown, you've been with her before and you kinda have a basic idea of how she's like.
How long were you with this exexex before anyway?
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Rep Power: 0 Hahaha...the 350z is a good analogy!!
the 350z gives you so much more...looks...handling...and feeling... that and the excitement that comes with a new car...
although the 350z is pretty tempting, there are a lot of costs that go with it... insurance is a big one, and the increased risk of it getting stolen...
the civic that you have on the other hand has given you a lot... it has taken you a lot of places and is already a part of your daily life. you don't need to break in another car and be worried that you may be pushing it too much when it's new...
you have lots of emotions in that civic.. are u willing to part it out and let it go? u made it to look to your desiring with all that time, energy and $$ you spent...
and with the 350z, you have to think about room for expansion... cuz it is a pretty tight car...
the 350z gives you so much more...looks...handling...and feeling... that and the excitement that comes with a new car...
although the 350z is pretty tempting, there are a lot of costs that go with it... insurance is a big one, and the increased risk of it getting stolen...
the civic that you have on the other hand has given you a lot... it has taken you a lot of places and is already a part of your daily life. you don't need to break in another car and be worried that you may be pushing it too much when it's new...
you have lots of emotions in that civic.. are u willing to part it out and let it go? u made it to look to your desiring with all that time, energy and $$ you spent...
and with the 350z, you have to think about room for expansion... cuz it is a pretty tight car...
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Rep Power: 0 Yeah it is a good analogy...but the only thing is...cars don't have feelings.
That's what I mean...like..if it was the car part...yeah I would go for the 350Z..I mean...yes...insurance higher, higher risk of being stolen..but it is worth it because it is a 350Z!!
But with people it's different..people have feelings. I mean taking the 350Z won't make the civic feel bad because the Civic doesn't have feelings....I mean that's the only thing.....it is so hard......but yeah....you got to make ur choice...
it depends on how ur current girl is also......depends on a lot of things..
That's what I mean...like..if it was the car part...yeah I would go for the 350Z..I mean...yes...insurance higher, higher risk of being stolen..but it is worth it because it is a 350Z!!
But with people it's different..people have feelings. I mean taking the 350Z won't make the civic feel bad because the Civic doesn't have feelings....I mean that's the only thing.....it is so hard......but yeah....you got to make ur choice...
it depends on how ur current girl is also......depends on a lot of things..
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<SIGH> It's a tough choice.
I've been with the exexex for half a year back then. And it was the most *ahem* romantic relationship, but had to end because we both needed to focus on our academics. I had to do well (better) in University and she was about to enter University... I've seen her on and off over the last few years, all along I wanted to help her out on anything, coz for some reason, I felt that I needed to take care of her, and back then, I thought if she was happy with her BF I won't mind just being a good friend. And now that her BF's haven't treat her well at all, I feel all the more an urge to take over. I can daresay it's true love, but I also love my current GF, albeit it's a different magnitude... In fact, I would say it's different type altogether.
I dunno, it's all becoming too confusing.
<SIGH> It's a tough choice.
I've been with the exexex for half a year back then. And it was the most *ahem* romantic relationship, but had to end because we both needed to focus on our academics. I had to do well (better) in University and she was about to enter University... I've seen her on and off over the last few years, all along I wanted to help her out on anything, coz for some reason, I felt that I needed to take care of her, and back then, I thought if she was happy with her BF I won't mind just being a good friend. And now that her BF's haven't treat her well at all, I feel all the more an urge to take over. I can daresay it's true love, but I also love my current GF, albeit it's a different magnitude... In fact, I would say it's different type altogether.
I dunno, it's all becoming too confusing.
Since you are happy with your current girlfriend then why confuse yourself by pulling one more person into your current relationship ??
You are making things complicated !!
You are confusing yourself !!
If you are not happy with your current girlfriend .. then break up with her and find your happiness (exexex gf) but don't regret it in the future !!
You are making things complicated !!
You are confusing yourself !!
If you are not happy with your current girlfriend .. then break up with her and find your happiness (exexex gf) but don't regret it in the future !!
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Rep Power: 0 The main thing is that you don't regret your final decision... or else you'll be back to square one.
Or Scarborough town Centre, whichever one you're closer to! [IMG]i/expressions/laugh2.gif[/IMG] j/k
Or Scarborough town Centre, whichever one you're closer to! [IMG]i/expressions/laugh2.gif[/IMG] j/k
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The main thing is that you don't regret your final decision... or else you'll be back to square one.
Or Scarborough town Centre, whichever one you're closer to! [IMG]i/expressions/laugh2.gif[/IMG] j/k[hr]
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The main thing is that you don't regret your final decision... or else you'll be back to square one.
Or Scarborough town Centre, whichever one you're closer to! [IMG]i/expressions/laugh2.gif[/IMG] j/k[hr]
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Rep Power: 0 In my experience you always want (badly) what you can't have. I had an ex that cheated on me, made me go nuts, but for some reason I didn't want to loose her (don't know why). Maybe I didn't want her with someone else. I just don't know, anyways. Up to this day I think she was perfect for me, but looking back I would say that she was not right for me now, I know, I'm confusing myself. Even though you'll never have those strong feelings for someone else (I think its called your first love) you'll eventually love someone else. Yeah everyone wishes they can bottled those feelings but it won't happen, get over it. You have built a great relationship with another woman, girl, female for 3 years, you have chemistry and obviously she likes you to stay that long. 
Don't let past feelings get in the way of your new ones for your present GF, you'll never feel the same way you did for your ex ex ex GF with anyone else (or at least that's how I felt), but just hope that you meet one that will remain with you forever (or something like that). You probably are wondering what could have been, what if, if I just did this... don't waste your time trying to figure out the past. Live in the future, but at the same time don't regret it. Look at the pros and cons, that's what I did. I'm now married with a wonderful and beautiful wife and she has given me the greates gift a man could want, my daughter. The past does not matter, I look forward to the future everyday, but it doesn't mean I can day dream of what could have or what ifssss.
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Don't let past feelings get in the way of your new ones for your present GF, you'll never feel the same way you did for your ex ex ex GF with anyone else (or at least that's how I felt), but just hope that you meet one that will remain with you forever (or something like that). You probably are wondering what could have been, what if, if I just did this... don't waste your time trying to figure out the past. Live in the future, but at the same time don't regret it. Look at the pros and cons, that's what I did. I'm now married with a wonderful and beautiful wife and she has given me the greates gift a man could want, my daughter. The past does not matter, I look forward to the future everyday, but it doesn't mean I can day dream of what could have or what ifssss.My two cents.
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In my experience you always want (badly) what you can't have. I had an ex that cheated on me, made me go nuts, but for some reason I didn't want to loose her (don't know why). Maybe I didn't want her with someone else. I just don't know, anyways. Up to this day I think she was perfect for me, but looking back I would say that she was not right for me now, I know, I'm confusing myself. Even though you'll never have those strong feelings for someone else (I think its called your first love) you'll eventually love someone else. Yeah everyone wishes they can bottled those feelings but it won't happen, get over it. You have built a great relationship with another woman, girl, female for 3 years, you have chemistry and obviously she likes you to stay that long. Don't let past feelings get in the way of your new ones for your present GF, you'll never feel the same way you did for your ex ex ex GF with anyone else (or at least that's how I felt), but just hope that you meet one that will remain with you forever (or something like that). You probably are wondering what could have been, what if, if I just did this... don't waste your time trying to figure out the past. Live in the future, but at the same time don't regret it. Look at the pros and cons, that's what I did. I'm now married with a wonderful and beautiful wife and she has given me the greates gift a man could want, my daughter. The past does not matter, I look forward to the future everyday, but it doesn't mean I can day dream of what could have or what ifssss.
My two cents.
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In my experience you always want (badly) what you can't have. I had an ex that cheated on me, made me go nuts, but for some reason I didn't want to loose her (don't know why). Maybe I didn't want her with someone else. I just don't know, anyways. Up to this day I think she was perfect for me, but looking back I would say that she was not right for me now, I know, I'm confusing myself. Even though you'll never have those strong feelings for someone else (I think its called your first love) you'll eventually love someone else. Yeah everyone wishes they can bottled those feelings but it won't happen, get over it. You have built a great relationship with another woman, girl, female for 3 years, you have chemistry and obviously she likes you to stay that long.
Don't let past feelings get in the way of your new ones for your present GF, you'll never feel the same way you did for your ex ex ex GF with anyone else (or at least that's how I felt), but just hope that you meet one that will remain with you forever (or something like that). You probably are wondering what could have been, what if, if I just did this... don't waste your time trying to figure out the past. Live in the future, but at the same time don't regret it. Look at the pros and cons, that's what I did. I'm now married with a wonderful and beautiful wife and she has given me the greates gift a man could want, my daughter. The past does not matter, I look forward to the future everyday, but it doesn't mean I can day dream of what could have or what ifssss.My two cents.
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As some of you said, I really just need some supporting ideas. [IMG]i/expressions/face-icon-small-tongue.gif[/IMG]
Na, seriously. I don't think I will have an immediate answer. The thing is, in the past few months I've been contemplating already, exexex issue aside, whether I really love my GF enough to go the next step ("Mmmmmmmm M word") in life, or whether some of the incompatibilities that we do have and couldn't compromise after 3 years are going to mean the "D" word after the "M" word.
The exexex thing thus became more of a catalyst than anything, really. Of course, my best friend has scolded me for over an hour last night over the phone. She said I can't allow the two things to get correlated, and I agree. So now I will have to seriously decide whether I should stick with my GF or not, not considering getting back together with my exexex an option.
And so, if it does turn out that in the case that I do break up with my GF, and then if it turns out then that in that case my exexex also decided I was right, then in that case maybe I would get together again with my exexex, but not the other way around (i.e., I won't break up with my GF becoz I wanna get back together with my exexex)...
But yah, it's definitely a drag to have to break up with someone, I know after I've been through, now, 8 GFs in the last ten years, that means my "first love" is my exexexexexexex... Heh heh...
Wish me luck.
As some of you said, I really just need some supporting ideas. [IMG]i/expressions/face-icon-small-tongue.gif[/IMG]
Na, seriously. I don't think I will have an immediate answer. The thing is, in the past few months I've been contemplating already, exexex issue aside, whether I really love my GF enough to go the next step ("Mmmmmmmm M word") in life, or whether some of the incompatibilities that we do have and couldn't compromise after 3 years are going to mean the "D" word after the "M" word.
The exexex thing thus became more of a catalyst than anything, really. Of course, my best friend has scolded me for over an hour last night over the phone. She said I can't allow the two things to get correlated, and I agree. So now I will have to seriously decide whether I should stick with my GF or not, not considering getting back together with my exexex an option.
And so, if it does turn out that in the case that I do break up with my GF, and then if it turns out then that in that case my exexex also decided I was right, then in that case maybe I would get together again with my exexex, but not the other way around (i.e., I won't break up with my GF becoz I wanna get back together with my exexex)...
But yah, it's definitely a drag to have to break up with someone, I know after I've been through, now, 8 GFs in the last ten years, that means my "first love" is my exexexexexexex... Heh heh...
Wish me luck.
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Rep Power: 0 Good luck man. Just dump them all and then you can have as many as you want on the side... [IMG]i/expressions/demon.gif[/IMG] No need to explain, specially if you're still young.
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Rep Power: 0 I think the pros and cons thing is a good idea, but when it comes to matters of the heart, sometimes pros and cons just don't seem to do the trick... it all boils down to how you feel about these two women... I'm a strong believer in fate, and I really think that whatever happens, happens for a reason, so maybe in your case, fate's brought you and your ex back together? Whatever it is, think it through. I hope everything works out for the best for you, man.
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was ur exexex ur first love???........cuz if she is thats probably has something to do with it......ur first will always be ur first..................but just go with ur instinct and do what u think is right for u.....cuz u might be just hearing our words but u dont have to listen to them........u are the only one that knows whats the best to do in the situation.....no one else..........
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Rep Power: 0 Verdict has been reached. Regardless of whether I can win back my ex, I will duke it out with my GF. This whole ordeal gave me a chance to reflect on the relationship. What's good, and what's not. What I like, and what I don't. And more I think about it, the more I realize my current relationship, ableit stable, isn't really what I want in life.
Come to think of it, the only thing I'd probably miss is my dog (one I bought for my GF)...
I will demand that she changes all the things we've argued about all along. If she actually manages to do so, then the relationship is worth keeping. If not, regardless of my ex, I'm outta there!
Come to think of it, the only thing I'd probably miss is my dog (one I bought for my GF)...
I will demand that she changes all the things we've argued about all along. If she actually manages to do so, then the relationship is worth keeping. If not, regardless of my ex, I'm outta there!
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omg.......u asking a girl to change.......
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omg.......u asking a girl to change.......
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