Good pickup on the injectors. Once you get the emanage, you'll ditch the TSI controller (and two injectors) completely. The emanage will do everything for you.
So the problem with the coolant is that your headgasket is leaking due to the turbo. That you've made it 30K on the TSI kit is pretty impressive, but its time to get some ARP head studs and a new head gasket and replace it. Then crank the boost down until you get the e-manage and RSX-S injectors installed. E-manage isn't great, but it's better than what you're running currently.
With the EX head, you will still need to run something besides the emanage to control the VTEC engagement. Here are your options to run the mini-me setup:
1.
EX ECU + EX wiring harness + EX thermostat housing with EGR valve (If your new head comes with an EX thermostat housing and you want to use it).
Get an EX ECU (about $100) and wiring harness (about $50), plug everything in nice and easy, drive it to the dealership and have them reflash your key to match the ECU so your immobilizer light goes off. This is probably the easiest, but you have to replace the wiring harness (not difficult, but if you're new it can be intimidating). Plus you don't have to mess with tuning (I'll get to this), and you can use the EGR valve on the EX thermostat.
2.
EX ECU + LX thermo housing. Not recommended as the ECU will look for the EGR valve and throw a code if it doesn't find it.
3.
LX ECU + Apexi VAFC (around $200). Physically install everything and wire in the VAFC to control your VTEC solenoid. You will have to tune the car yourself to engage the VTEC, or find a tuner who will work on the VAFC. You do get some more features with the VAFC that may make this worthwhile, you don't have to swap the ECU and the harness and you can find VAFCs for a reasonable price. Also if you go this route, I know a few folks who have done this and can put you in contact with them to help you with the tuning.
You can pick up a plug and play VAFC harness from Boomslang (
www.boomslang.us) for $140 or you can wire it in yourself.
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K-pro. Most expensive option is using a Hondata Kpro ECU. But all you will have to do is wire the VTEC solenoid wire. Doesn't need EGR valve or VTEC oil pressure sensor wiring. It will run you roughly 1400$. Not a cheap solution but I just thought I'd throw the idea out there.