Thanks everyone for the responces!
I feel swayed towards the Bilsteins at this point. I'm drawn towards things which well built and down right work, just like how I was drawn to my civic...oh...

but I can't complain too much, it has never failed me, just annoyed me with its "quirks"
The suggestion of variability between shocks in a set might make getting them adjusted to proportional settings a hassle/annoyance. so that is a knock against the dspecs.
I'm actually tempted to first try swapping only the rear tokico blues for Bilsteins as the rear of the car seems to be the biggest culprit of excess body motions.
Rear bounce was improved when I went from stock rears to blues, so maybe blues to Bilsteins is the extra step neccessary?
Depends on how stiff they really are I guess.
What do you think?