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I installed fog lights and i was wondering if someone could help me with my harness.
we will use this as an example:


Option 1, is always HOT, regardless of the key being in the car or in any ignition position. This would be used for a optional security fitment in the car from Honda.
Option 2, is only HOT when parking lights or headlights are turned on. This is regardless if the keys are in or not.
Option 3, is only HOT when keys are in and turned to the ACC position
Option 4, is only HOT when keys are in the IG2 position

so i can only get them to turn on when i plug in the black wire that comes from the fuse on the harness into #4 and have the red wire to #1
the problem is that the light in the fog light button doesn't ever turn off.
if someone can help i would really appreciate it.

my harness looks like this


just without the second relay and the orange cables