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View Poll Results: Would you have sex with someone you dont have "feelings" for??
Yeah, is just an easy piece of ass
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62.30%
No, if i dont have feelings i wont want to touch that
say for example you are dating someone or you are married to someone. And you dont have feelings for that person anymore and are in the process of leaving them, would you still have sex wit the person just because you felt like it? wouldnt that show that you still have feelings for the person?
so would you have sex with your significant other if you didnt have "feelings" for them anymore
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Originally Posted by sare
my general rule is: there is a reason they're your EX boyfriend. i don't redate.if they were that amazing, you wouldn't have ever broken up in the 1st place.
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i wouldnt, just cuz im a guy and im waiting, i think thats just wrong. lots of people do that tho, like have sex with someone before they break up, "breakup sex", just so they can get as much as they can before they leave that person. that shows weakness, as well as foolishness. if u kno ur breaking up, why dont u just leave the person and find someone that u have more feelings for. i think your just hurting the person more in the long run because they are like, i thought u liked me and we did it and all, but your really thinking... i only did it cuz i was horny, i didn't have feelings for u.
that also brings me to my next point in that... most people just have sex cuz they can and never have feelings with a person, especially one night stands and all that, i think there all wrong. sex is part of a relationship and a long term committment. you have sex because u love the person and want to show them you do as well as procreation. its not just to have fun with as many people as you can.
Sex can be misleading, and can give the other person the wrong idea. If you want out of the relationship with less hassels than dont do it. There will be less hurt when you break up.
No I wouldn't , sex isn't just sex for me. If there's no feelings there, then there's no attraction either. Attraction should'nt be based on just looks well in a real relationship anyways. I guess this may differ from girls to guys. Girls tend to be more emotionally attached than guys.
i wouldnt, just cuz im a guy and im waiting, i think thats just wrong. lots of people do that tho, like have sex with someone before they break up, "breakup sex", just so they can get as much as they can before they leave that person. that shows weakness, as well as foolishness. if u kno ur breaking up, why dont u just leave the person and find someone that u have more feelings for. i think your just hurting the person more in the long run because they are like, i thought u liked me and we did it and all, but your really thinking... i only did it cuz i was horny, i didn't have feelings for u.
that also brings me to my next point in that... most people just have sex cuz they can and never have feelings with a person, especially one night stands and all that, i think there all wrong. sex is part of a relationship and a long term committment. you have sex because u love the person and want to show them you do as well as procreation. its not just to have fun with as many people as you can.
sex means different things to different people. that's your opinion.
I have to like the person in general, but feelings or emotions dont matter. But I would always make sure to be out of a relationship before making the plunge. Nobody likes being cheated on, if you are going to hook up with somebody else when the relationship is coming to a close, just end it before you do the deed.
Leaving a relationship on a cheating situation can ruin the potential for fck buddies with the ex down the line.
oh...i voted before i read the message. if im going out w/ someone and the feelings are lingering and im thinking of ending it, id still have sex. lol i mean, its not like there are completely no feelings...its just that youre kind of fed up w/ the other crap in the relationship. the sex was great! lol
i thought the survey was in the case of a totally random person...like who you just met or who you kind of know but dont have feelings for. in that case i wouldnt.
oh...i voted before i read the message. if im going out w/ someone and the feelings are lingering and im thinking of ending it, id still have sex. lol i mean, its not like there are completely no feelings...its just that youre kind of fed up w/ the other crap in the relationship. the sex was great! lol
yeah the question goes if you would have sex with your partner if you didnt have any feelings or attraction for that person anymore.
i think that you would throw mix signals, if you have sex wit that person. and what happens if there's no protection and she gets pregnant, then you are really stuck with the person cuz now you got a kid.
i wouldnt if i didnt love the person anymore
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Originally Posted by sare
my general rule is: there is a reason they're your EX boyfriend. i don't redate.if they were that amazing, you wouldn't have ever broken up in the 1st place.
yeah the question goes if you would have sex with your partner if you didnt have any feelings or attraction for that person anymore.
i think that you would throw mix signals, if you have sex wit that person. and what happens if there's no protection and she gets pregnant, then you are really stuck with the person cuz now you got a kid.
i wouldnt if i didnt love the person anymore
well, true. it might send mixed signals, but if youre trying to end the relationship on good terms, avoiding sex might piss the other person off and start fights. at least that was the situation i was in. i mean, i loved the sex...dont get me wrong, but i wasnt always in the mood at the exact time she wanted to shag. or shed be like "were not gonna do anything, were just gonna hug" and then shed get pissed if thats all i wanted to do...so it was either having her pissed and have a whole fight for hours, or get in the mood and get some. sometimes i went for the bitch session though...when i was in a bad mood or something. anyway, what im trying to say is, feelings are one thing, attraction is another. if theres no attraction...thats kind of hard to do anything. but how does one lose attraction to a person? it wouldnt be physical attraction...because an attractive person doesnt all of a sudden become unattractive...unless theres some accident or something.
unprotected sex is just a big no no to begin with. i avoided that with a passion. **** that shit! sure it feels much better bare, but im not ready for kids. and if the girl is trying to get pregnant to keep you...thats FVCKED! thats a total basis for breakup on the spot.
I dont know, It is tricky to say the least... I would say for me... no, but Im the guy so yea... no offence to women or anything, but somtimes they read into things more than they should, and that is why it is a bad Idea for a guy if he is trying to get out... as for a girl... if the guy is not a "drama queen" aka a more sencitive guy, and you are up front about it just being a booty call or what ever shane calls it now a days ( shane) you should be ok I would assume, but you know what they say, if you assume you make an ass out of me and u your call, and a tuff one at that...
I voted yeah... but i really have mixed feelings about this...
i think there is a clear divide between men and women on the issue of sex. not to say that all men are a-holes and just want to tap anything, and not to say that all women are incapable of having casual sex. But lets face it, men and women are clearly different.
in my personal situation. I've been married for 4 years... My wife is the first women I've ever date for longer than a week. Definitely the only women I've ever loved. I love my wife so much. But we have fights every now and then, like anyone else.
HYPOTHETICALLY speaking.... If I knew things were ending with my wife and I did not love her. I think I would still have sex with her, in part, cuase i'm a guy and we have stronger urges than women, but also in part in hopes that something might click and help restore the relationship.
That's all hypothetical.... i think talking is more likely to restore the relationship then just plain sex. But talking followed a great make up session sure does work wonders.
would i have , i already have ,should i have no and i regret it, do i wish i didnt yes i do quite much in fact, some think its like o why not youve been single long enough and so forth, but then you falsify your feelings towards them just in order to sleep with i think, i think it is impoissible to sleep with anyone unless there is some line of attachment
No I wouldn't , sex isn't just sex for me. If there's no feelings there, then there's no attraction either. Attraction should'nt be based on just looks well in a real relationship anyways. I guess this may differ from girls to guys. Girls tend to be more emotionally attached than guys.
This is true.
If there's nothing there, then the sex cant be enjoyable. Yeah, kinda like bangin a hooker.
my girlfriend and I have an agreement, if we ever break up she still wants to have sex with me becasue she says its so awesome. hehe. I agree she is the best piece of ass well in the bed that I have gotten. great so i dont know if that answers the question and i havent read all the posts but thats my two cents
Well D, I didn't read all these answers, but this ones a no brainer for me. The answer is no. I don't actually enjoy sex with someone I don't care about. Unless its just a raw attraction. But being in love, then starting to fall out of love, there is nothing good about the sex. It also can create false feelings for people that cloud your better judgement. Especially in females who tend to look at sex different than males. I think females in general feel kind of, dirty(can't think of a better word) if they have meaningless sex. But only after the fact. Before and during, they have human desire and don't think much about it. To compensate and make themselves feel like they didn't have meaningless sex, a lot of females attatch feelings to the sex afterwards. This is especially dangerous when you are talking about someone you are breaking up with or broke up with because you can fool yourself into forgeting some of the reasons this person wasn't right for you in the first place. Thus hurting more and more.
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sometimes i went for the bitch session though...when i was in a bad mood or something. anyway, what im trying to say is, feelings are one thing, attraction is another. if theres no attraction...thats kind of hard to do anything. but how does one lose attraction to a person? it wouldnt be physical attraction...because an attractive person doesnt all of a sudden become unattractive...unless theres some accident or something. 
shane) you should be ok I would assume, but you know what they say, if you assume you make an ass out of me and u 
