I have your car and have replaced both of these sensors using a 19mm wrench, I believe (eh could be 17mm). Spray some liquid wrench on it and let it soak. When your done reset the ECU by disconnecting the battery for 10 seconds or so.
From the Helms Factory Manual:
P0141 (65)
Secondary Heated Oxygen Sensor Heater Circuit Malfunction (Sensor 2)
Probable Causes:
1 - Open or short in Secondary HO25 (Sensor2) heater circuit
2 - ECM/PCM
It's probably not the ECU (computer).
The secondary HO2 sensor is just below your cat in the lower front part of the engine. Here's a piture of where it is (part #9):
