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Ok let me give you this history.... Now, theres this girl that i was introduced to by a friend girl of mine, back in november, and right from the bat we hit it off. But comes to find out she just wanted a one nighter with me, i didn't know at the time lol, so yea after about a month of talking, hanging out and just getting to know each other we i guess started seeing each other, like we started dating.... and this was a good thing, for a good while, i mean i treated her with the upmost respect and care and she returned it. But then in april or so, i got to meet her mom, me and like 2 of her friends went to the movies and like after the movie,(mom works there) her mom called and so she had to go back in, and like when she came out she was speachless and we all had to go our ways cause it looked like she was really upset. THen later that night she spilled to me how her mom hates black guys and even tho her mom knows im not your stupid stereotypical black guy, she didnt want me to be see around with her daughter... Also her mom threatened to tranfer her to another school and such just so it wouldnt happen. This was a major blow to both of us... i mean dang.... and so we kinda said all we can do is be casual friends, and i swear it was a hard time for both of us, just cause it hurt so bad ya know.. we were on the route to being a couple and boom.... this BS happens... but yeah, i guess we started talking again last week, and we were pretty much like "we have to see one another" and so we made plans for tuesday. Now just the other night, one of my friends said he and his girl has a girl have found a nice young lady who they think might mesh with me pretty well... and they wanted to go on a double date or what not :/ ok so civic buddies, im in a jam. Like i dont wanna lead either girl on because i hate when guys do that, i also dont wanna "play" either of them, and i just dont know what to do... meet up with girl #1 on tuesday who i know i perfectly match with, but she has the parents issue, or i can try the double date thing and meeting this new girl who i have no clue about, but my friends say she's a very nice, and honest edit: GIRL (srry bout the mistype) like myself...
btw im looking for honest responses, like in all seriousness..
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Dude, your not with either of those girls at the moment... Here’s the rules you don’t understand when your younger... you can date more then one chick at a time, that’s totally okay-- but the thing is you cant have a girlfriend and date a chick on the side, or have two girlfriends kuz that’s just straight up cheating.
Diversify, they probably are.. hey, guess which egg u are!
i just dont know what to do... meet up with girl #1 on tuesday who i know i perfectly match with, but she has the parents issue, or i can try the double date thing and meeting this new girl who i have no clue about, but my friends say she's a very nice, and honest guy like myself...
Haha jk, I think we all know what you meant
Its Tuesday, so I hope you're with one of these girls at least.
I'm black, and its a sh*t ass surprise meeting a nice girl with ignorant, racist parent(s). Its nothing that we can fix, so in most cases I just move on. They will always come around if it really meant something. I'm sure this girl is in her 20's like you, but seems like she is kinda on lock down. Does she live with her Mom? Work? Seems by this age she could stand to be a little more independent.
Its completely harmless meeting that girl you're friends have set up for you. First off, you're not really dating girl #1 anymore, and secondly, it sounds like you guys haven't seen eachother, or at least spent time together, in a while. That girl you haven't meet yet will always be there, she isn't going anywhere. Since you and girl #1 planned on meeting up today I hope it was fulfilled. Get together, eat, have fun, laugh!!
The best thing that you can do for yourself is.. Date! Meet up with that other girl, go to the bar, get out, meet some women. Keep it cool with girl #1, and if its meant to be it'll work itself out. I wouldn't say this to her, but give her the message that you still care about her and think she is great, but you can't take her seriously if she is gonna follow her Mom's racist ways, keep her distance, and talk to you when she wants. Maybe you need someone who is a little more grown up and independent. Get out there and look.
As they say.. Don't put all your marbels in one pot
Here’s the rules you don’t understand when your younger...
Sage wisdom from Triz aka "Old Guy". LOL, too funny!!
But very true. Parents can be a pain in the ass, I didn't speak with mine for 2 years after I got email from my Dad with "your wife is a conniving, manipulative bitch" in it. If she's willing to give bigot Mom the finger and say she found someone she wants to be with, then stick with her. If she waffles around and is in her 20s), keep on lookin, it will better in the long run. Go out with the other girl, just be honest with them both. If you start givin the business to either of them, definitely be honest. That'll catch up to you in a hurry if you're not.
thanx for the advice guys. Like with girl #1 the reason she's on lock down is cause her parents pay for her school, and her car is in thier name, just like me.. They even pay for her apt when she's in school, so just like me parents have freaking control at it is ghey!
and we did meet up last night actually and got alot of stuff off our chests ya know.... it was nice, like really nice to just sit and open up (gah i sound like im belong on 7th heaven!) but yeah, its times like that that girl #1 really shines... when we can just sit and talk for stinkin ever and the smiles or conversation never leaves. like heres some of the things my friends are telling me "Remember that great love & great achievements involve great risk"
"that if God wants [you 2] to be together, He'll make a way and that [you all] can't do it yourselves. And as you say at the end, all you can do is pray, but also keep in mind to listen to what God may be trying to say to you and stay strong no matter what."
gah!
Now the update on girl #2 Like from what everyone sez, shes a really nice down to earth church fairing girl, and she's 18.. and i just hit 21. yeah i know its not a big gap, but she's just now about to start college in the fall... should i even try for something thats gonna have to break off in the fall?
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"The most wasted of all days is a day without laughter" e.e.cummings Clover Green 2001 EM2
CHEAP, RELIABLE, FAST - you can only choose two
Last edited by LT2004ever; 06-01-2007 at 01:02 AM.
I would.. You have nothing to lose and only something to gain.
Since girl #1 has her own place, I guess it wouldn't be so hard seeing eachother afterall.
girl #1 has her place in the fall... then
girl #2 i dont know what i'd gain, girls get attached to me, then i hate having to break stuff off, it just brings tears that i dont wanna hear or see.... y are people so emotional!
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"The most wasted of all days is a day without laughter" e.e.cummings Clover Green 2001 EM2
Girl 1 has place in fall
Girl 2 leaves in fall
Kick it with girl 2 till fall and keep with your "secret" meetings with girl 1 till she gets her place. Use a rubber!! lol
OK, Ok I am 28 (I know an old bastard, right?) but here is what I have to say. It is not cheating if both girls know about each other. Hell I suggest having MANY associates and all your associates know about each other. If you decide you like one associate more than the other then cool hang out with her more but don't shut any of them out. If you shut them out and just chill with one, then one day you decide to kick it with an old associate it is then cheating. So many associates is cool and if you have associates with benefits it is even better. JUST REMEMBER NEVER HAVE UNPROTECTED SEX. ALL YOU NEED IS A FREAKING RACIST BITCH TO BE YOUR BABIES GRANDMA. I CAN HERE HER NOW" YEP, MY GRAND BABY IS A STUPID OREO" I HATE RACISM.....
^ ROFL, oreo.
dude... aha. fvck. hmm... anyways, associates... you sound like one of thoes managers that fvcks his associats for a 10 cent /hr raise, ha.
LT- Shoulda put that band aid on your heart and not your car.
lol i've heard that name before lol cause im black but like i wear hollister etc, and because i listen to rock, techno, country, asian, pretty much everything cept hardcore rap. lol oh well, i dont let it bother me.
Then for the sex thing, yea shes on BC and protecting is used... were both not ready for something like that.... and yeah a racist grandmother is not on the top of things i want my kids to have when i come around to wanting kids.
so you are saying i should not flat out tell the girls about each other, but let it be known that im hanging out with more that just them right?
I thank you all for your words of wisdom, imma give girl #2 a shot, who knows she might even be better than #1, i highly doubt it but you never know...
welp... i'll keep everyone updated if u are some way interested in what i do, so yea, stay tuned for out action packed conclusion of.... um..... young and confused ... um... girl problems.... well just stay tuned
edit: hey i didnt make a new post for this edit whoot one point for the civicforums official post whore!: but yeah TRIZ i really should have.. gah...
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"The most wasted of all days is a day without laughter" e.e.cummings Clover Green 2001 EM2
well turns out that girl #2 is alright i guess but shes not my type physically.. like no attraction.. one of those girls who i'd rather text than anything else...
guess it all kinda worked itself out.. slightly
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"The most wasted of all days is a day without laughter" e.e.cummings Clover Green 2001 EM2
well turns out that girl #2 is alright i guess but shes not my type physically.. like no attraction.. one of those girls who i'd rather text than anything else...
As long as she's pretty in the dark Travis....
Does it count that I married the manager I used to work for? Raise my ass! This crap is expensive!
Does it count that I married the manager I used to work for? Raise my ass! This crap is expensive!
im sorry man but i cant roll over in the morning and go in for a kiss then rethink it ang go in for a punch, cause im scared to death! besides i also need someone that i'll be proud to be seen with ya know...(does that sound bad?)
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Also her mom threatened to tranfer her to another school and such just so it wouldnt happen. This was a major blow to both of us... i mean dang.... and so we kinda said all we can do is be casual friends, and i swear it was a hard time for both of us, just cause it hurt so bad ya know.. we were on the route to being a couple and boom.... this BS happens... but yeah, i guess we started talking again last week, and we were pretty much like "we have to see one another" and so we made plans for tuesday. Now just the other night, one of my friends said he and his girl has a girl have found a nice young lady who they think might mesh with me pretty well... and they wanted to go on a double date or what not :/ ok so civic buddies, im in a jam. Like i dont wanna lead either girl on because i hate when guys do that, i also dont wanna "play" either of them, and i just dont know what to do... meet up with girl #1 on tuesday who i know i perfectly match with, but she has the parents issue, or i can try the double date thing and meeting this new girl who i have no clue about, but my friends say she's a very nice, and honest edit: GIRL (srry bout the mistype) like myself... ![By speedfoos[/url]](http://www.civicforums.com/forums/signaturepics/sigpic23289_3.gif)
