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so i have this jealousy problem... i have a gf and i just get extremely jealous when she chills with other people. i'm definetly not one of those control freak BF's, i can control the feeling and act like everything's fine, because i understand that it's normal for her and myself to hang out with friends. so it doesn't actually get in the way of the relationship because i just don't act on the feeling, but it's still annoying to have this feeling bugging me. whenever i see an away message on her aim "going out" or whatnot it just comes back no matter what. maybe it's because we just started going out a few weeks back and the trust isn't fully established, but i've had no reason to not trust her, she always tells me what she's doing while we're talking on the phone or whatnot. even about other guys asking her out and how she shot them down .
i guess there's nothing that anyone can really do i just felt like ranting some to see if it'll help ditch the feeling heh. so what's everyone think of 300?
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I was the same way with my wife while we dated.. and we dated for a long time... I was always jealous when she'd go out with people when I had to stay home and study but I always forced myself to realize she loves me and I trust her... If you really really love her you'll fight the urge to say anything, trust me, you'll get over it!
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Well dude, I know exactly where your coming from. Themoogly... I dunno man, I know a few girls that were screwing around on the side line. But hey- ricergribbs, if shes ment to be, then it'll last. If its not ment to be, then she'll cheat on you and you'll kick her to the curb. Thats how the games played. Think about it, if you always keep an eye on her, you'll know shes not cheating on you, but you cant always keep an eye on her, and you'll be flipping out when you cant because you havent built the trust during the begining of the relationship. Trust me, i'm sure we've all fucked a relationship up trying to keep our girls from every chance of cheating on us. I've read my chicks myspace like 5 times a day, checked her email, her phone call list.. lol, honestly... But I mean, I never was really happy kuz I was always halfway to asking myself "could she be cheating on me..." But dude, I woulda just been a lot happier if I coulda sat back and been like you know what, I trust this girl. If she wants to abuse this trust and mess with other guys, then let her, and I wont trust her, and therefore I wont want to be with her anymore, meaning I wont hve to worry about her anymore... bllahhh. Girls suck dude.
Just trust her with whatever shes doing, if she messes with another dude, call an end to it. If she doesnt, then keep her next to you homie kuz you found a good one.
HA! right when that jealousy goes away and i start trusting her, BAM! to the face haha. ah well, shit happens, i stopped caring because frankly it's not worth working myself up for. thanks for the replies guys. i went and got drunk with a few buddies and it's all good now. can't wait until the weekend, gonna go see how many #'s i can get
I know alot of fella's that are like this with their Girlfriends. I know you say you trust her, but do you really? I was with a fella before who was feeling like this, he kept it to himself but one day came out and told me about it. If you're feeling like this i don't think you really do trust her and are insecure about what she's doing or might get up to.
When she tells you about other fellas asking her out, being a girl i know that most girls do this if they want to make their boyfriend jealous,i think she's letting you know that she doesn't have to rely on you if she doesn't want to. That's just my two cents anyway
**EDIT** Oops, didn't read the thread fully, hope everything works out for you anyway **EDIT**
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Last edited by Miss CivicCoupe; 04-11-2007 at 05:23 AM.
If you get a feeling she's hiding something from you, odds are, she is. One thing I've learned is to trust your gut. So many guys nowadays are desparate for any woman they can get. Look at it with the attitude of plenty of fish in the sea and believe in yourself. Doubt and jealousy are things women aren't attracted to. Self confidence and self reliance are things women are attracted to.
Trust me, if you believe you're the shit, every woman around you will know it and see it.
Trust me, if you believe you're the shit, every woman around you will know it and see it.
Whether that's good or bad remains to be seen.
But I know what you're talking about, how you just start thinking things you know aren't true and shouldn't be thinking anyway. Like, I always have to hold myself back when one of her guy friends (who also happens to be gay) comes up and gives her a hug. I just don't like to see anyone else touching her like that, even though I know there's nothing there and I trust her.
But I know what you're talking about, how you just start thinking things you know aren't true and shouldn't be thinking anyway. Like, I always have to hold myself back when one of her guy friends (who also happens to be gay) comes up and gives her a hug. I just don't like to see anyone else touching her like that, even though I know there's nothing there and I trust her.
Not exactly what I mean. I simply mean to be confident and believe in yourself and not to be full of doubt.
Who cares what she does. If she does things that bother you, be straight up about it and don't pretend to be apologetic for having expectations. Tell her. If she doesn't like it and doesn't understand, she's not for you and have her hit the road. One thing I've learned is that you can't make someone fall in love with you. And if she really loves you, your feelings will weigh heavier with her than anything else, trust me. If she gives up that "I am gonna do what I want and I don't care what you think" attitude, cut her loose, she isn't for you. And don't look back.
Jealous is a bitch. However, it means that you do care! lol. Unfortunately some people don't see it that way. Just don't beat anyone up over it because, NO girl is worth fighting over! I recently got the Connect2Car MFC Anywhere system for security in my car, but I got the basic basic unit that just tracks and not control, for my g/f's ride. That way I know she's "SAFE". I paid like $160 for the tracking unit.
Jealous is a bitch. However, it means that you do care! lol. Unfortunately some people don't see it that way. Just don't beat anyone up over it because, NO girl is worth fighting over! I recently got the Connect2Car MFC Anywhere system for security in my car, but I got the basic basic unit that just tracks and not control, for my g/f's ride. That way I know she's "SAFE". I paid like $160 for the tracking unit.
/\ That's borderline obsessive. You've got serious trust issues if you think you need to track your girlfriend.
She knows it's in the car for security reasons though. I'm FAR from obsessed. If she's lost, she'd call me and I'd log in and give her directions and if the car gets stolen, we'll be able to find it. Things disappear in NYC, esp. Civics! Note: I said "That way I know she's "SAFE".
On another note....an acquintance of mine got it to track his wife because he is obsessed and he tracks his kids too. He has a trust issue and the wifey nor kids know about it.
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She knows it's in the car for security reasons though. I'm FAR from obsessed. If she's lost, she'd call me and I'd log in and give her directions and if the car gets stolen, we'll be able to find it. Things disappear in NYC, esp. Civics! Note: I said "That way I know she's "SAFE".
On another note....an acquintance of mine got it to track his wife because he is obsessed and he tracks his kids too. He has a trust issue and the wifey nor kids know about it.
oh, the quotes around "safe" made it seems like you didn't actually mean safe, but you know... you were tracking her to know what she's doing. yeah, if she knows and all it's cool, she'll just know not to take her car when she wants to keep something private , jk.
but yeah, that friend of yours is way out there, i mean he's married and all and he still doesn't trust her?
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, jk. 
