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Picture this: You have a younger sister who's 15. There's a new Sunday school teacher, somewhere in his 40s/50s, married, and has a daugther himself (she's soo fionnee!) but that's beside the point. For about a month or so, he's been calling my sister into the night, emailing her, etc. etc. because he told me he felt like she was calling out for someone and needed advice. She's told me and my mom that he's told her that she's a "very special girl" and that he "loves her". This new Sunday school teacher, Rick, is not a certified pastor or a counselor, just some guy that used to be a homeless bum from what I hear. One night, he's called her twice and left two messages for her, even called my mom on her cell phone if he could speak w/ her or wondering of her whereabouts. He's told my sister that he'd be glad to go w/ her to the movies, even coming over each other houses if needed. I called him before, telling him that his efforts trying to help are appreciative but I told him it wouldn't be necessary anymore and that it is a burden to me, because it feels like he's trying to get too involved w/ my sister. I was nice about it. This was about 3 weeks ago. Tonite, I get a call from my mom (I go to college in a different city) and telling me that my sister told my mom that he was still trying. I called him again, this time in a little more confronting way, even had to yell once because it seemed like he didn't get the picture. I had told him to stop before and yet he still tries. I guess he had me on speakerphone, cuz when I did yell, I heard his wife in the background saying "what's going on!?" I ended up talking to her and of course she's going to take his side. Correct me if I'm wrong, but if someone says to stop something and the other person still continues, it is my understanding that is considered harassment, and if it is geared toward to something even remotely sexual, it is sexual harrasment. What would you guys do? Can the law be involved in this? This guy, Rick, is REALLY starting to get on my nerves.
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Have you mom file a restaraining order and then find a new church.
Then file a complaint the church authority, if this is one.
worst case you get a ski mask and jump his ass
LOLOL the thing is tho, my ancestors founded this church (we're United Methodist) and we have this history and half my family goes there. Plus, that dude has been there for maybe 6 months....I don't wanna leave a church b/c of some bum, let alone feel awkward when I go to church b/c of some bum.
And he's not a pedophile, he's attempting to get with your sister. She's not a child, she's a teenager. lol. You make him sound like he's screwing kids.
Contact the Church. Contacting the police won't do anything because he hasn't actually done anything to your sister. You *CAN* file a restraining order against him though.
And honestly, I wouldn't be too much against beating the crap out of him...
Invite him to dinner one night. . .with 12 of your best thug friends.
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Is your sis a HOTTIE.Here legal limit is 14 In all serious though it's kinda weird for the Sunday school teacher to do that. I went out with a Jehovah Witness chick before and man oh man she was a freak.Got a blow job from her and she tried stickin her finger in my a$$
I say let something you know is wrong happen. I mean if your family started the church then you cant stop it. I mean hell if something bad happens nothing can top the fact that some person who has the same blood as you started the place. Your ancestors starting a church is not a good reason to make any decision. Make decisions based on what you know is right.
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if that was my sister i would go to his house with all my friends and show him who's boss. I would be outraged at that and would get me extremely extremely mad
it's really weird cuz within the two phone convos I had w/ him, I must have told him to stay away from my sister AT LEAST 50 times NO LIE! Everytime I said it, he would try to resist it and say some other bullsh*t.
b - your mom needs to notify whoever is the boss of your church that this man is acting inappropriately
c - i woild not be surprised if he has a rap sheet
d - he IS trying to get with your sister and i have no doubts about that, there is no adult man who needs to spend that much time with a minor, male or female that is not a direct relative.
this is highly inappropriate behavior especially since he has been asked by her mother to leave her alone. he seems codependent on her. i smell a disaster brewing here. i have a really bad feeling about this situaltion and your sister comes out as the victim.
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yup. you need to put an end to this completely. don't beat the guy up..that will just get you in trouble. get him where it would hurt the most...call him out in front of other church members, embarass him about it, do what ever you have to to get this creep away from you lil sis...in addition to what fiji said ^
BTW does you SISTER have a say in any of this? What does she think...?
My sister has cried cuz of him, saying how she feels really uncomfortable around him. Every email, phone call record, voicemail, etc. he sends her, she deletes rite after she reads them so my mom wouldn't see them. So, I dont exactly know what he has said.....but yeah, still working on it.
In all serious though it's kinda weird for the Sunday school teacher to do that. I went out with a Jehovah Witness chick before and man oh man she was a freak.Got a blow job from her and she tried stickin her finger in my a$$
