OK i need help.. asap

02-23-2005

i dont know what to do anymore....

what do you guys do to make your significant other trust you and believe what you say? i feel like i try to do everything im asked of and its still not convincing enough that its HIM and only HIM that i want..... weve been thru this so many times, and ive done what was asked of me to prove myself, but theres still that constant question in his mind.... so what do i do?

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Pharoh · 02-23-2005

if you've done all you can....and there are still questions......try to answer them. But he has to be willing to ask them first.

trust is a two way street with alot of traffic lights that aren't always green. Some people try to run the red

hehe...I had to toss in an automotive analogy...sorry.

02-23-2005

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Originally Posted by Pharoh

if you've done all you can....and there are still questions......try to answer them. But he has to be willing to ask them first.

trust is a two way street with alot of traffic lights that aren't always green. Some people try to run the red

hehe...I had to toss in an automotive analogy...sorry.

i knew you would be the first to respond....

Pharoh · 02-23-2005

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Originally Posted by VTECHGRL

i knew you would be the first to respond....

crazy huh...I've been in this sub all damn day for some reason...lol.

02-23-2005

hey your right tho... but damn ive tried everything....

Pharoh · 02-23-2005

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Originally Posted by VTECHGRL

hey your right tho... but damn ive tried everything....

welp...if you believe you've done everything than it's not up to you anymore. Sounds like you don't haven't been asked all the 'questions' though.

02-23-2005

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Originally Posted by Pharoh

welp...if you believe you've done everything than it's not up to you anymore. Sounds like you don't haven't been asked all the 'questions' though.

nah trust me mike, ive been asked every damn question possible.... (i think)

Cjddrum1 · 02-23-2005

is there a reason for him not to trust you?

Anyway if not just stick it out and everything will work out. He probably just has that doubt in his mind and wants to make sure you love him as much as he does you

02-23-2005

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Originally Posted by Cjddrum1

is there a reason for him not to trust you?

Anyway if not just stick it out and everything will work out. He probably just has that doubt in his mind and wants to make sure you love him as much as he does you

no theres no reason whatsoever... but he doesnt understand...

i dont know that its that doubt, but rather that he thinks i dont want to be with HIM, but someone else.

Cjddrum1 · 02-23-2005

You obviously want to be with him, but maybe he has come from bad relationships before?? If he has put youreself in his shoes, hes scared of being hurt. It might not be all his fault

Cjddrum1 · 02-23-2005

NOT THAT ITS YOURS EITHER!!! Just wanted to add that in

02-23-2005

well i been thru shit in relationships to... and so i have that same fear but i still trust him,....

ThsUserNmIsDumb · 02-23-2005

I sound like the "HIM"...

From that point of view, I can say that he is trying, too; don't think he isn't and that whatever you say doesn't sink in. Just keep answering and helping him understand.

Have you noticed the questions reduce in quantity/intensity over time? If so, then that's because your patience is helping him to understand/feel more comfortable.

My two cents that hopefully make sense.