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[runner1738]

Ok this is a long long story, technically I have a girlfriend who is 26, married (but getting divorced) to a navy **** head, has a 2.5 year old daughter( in orgeon) not san diego, Ca, and ive only known this girl since june 26, long story short i found her on the internet under sandiego.craigslist.org/cas to an ad she posted we had sex the first night cause in the beginning were just going ot be f/b and hang out every once in a while or wahtever. but me i was single for 11 months before her so i just wanted sum, so you can imagine i didnt really care. so now present time im broke as i ever have been, she is living with me, cause her husband kicked her out about a month ago and thats when the divorcing started to happen. i was told she cheated on me with this guy she sees like everyday and she has chylmadia who shetold me it was from her husband but she told another friend it was cause she had unprotected sex with a guy in cornado. so now i dont know what to believe or think. before we were talking about marriage and spending out lives together. now its like we fight all the time, technically weve broken up twice and shes wanted to get back together. she says she cares for me and loves me but then why would she cheat on me. most of the people that meet her say she is more then a flirt, and you have to watch her otherwise shell cheat on you and so forth. even the other friends she met down here say she is no good for me and im just to nice and i dont deserve it and so forth. im 20, i know there is an age difference and maturity difference as well. im sure how much longer i can pretend or hold out before i just say get the f*** out. she says the reason she isnt with her daughter right now is because she wants her childhood back and to have her crazy time in her life. so yea long story even longer if i went into details if you read this far. thank you

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[AdmireMyGr8ness]

No offense, I'm sure you like her and all, but you need to move on. She needs to take a LONG hard look at her life. You probably don't need that kind of drama anyhow...seems to me that you may end up with a broken heart whether you stay with her or leave her. Secrets and lies can ruin a relationship and to me she's not exactly being honest with you. She has a daughter...she needs to grow up and be a mother. She made her bed, now she has to lie in it. The choices she made in her life were her own...so I say learn to deal. This relationship is fairly new since you said it started in June...call it off and move on. She has too many issues to even be serious about her life and make good decisions. I'd be skeptical of a parent who would give up their child for "what they missed in life". If she's looking for a crazy time in her life...you're probably temporary. Good luck whatever you choose.

[evilone]

I don't say this often, but....

DUDE, RUN LIKE HELL!

[bananchik232]

jeez, thats insane!!! truthfully i think that she is using you, and that you dont desrve this obviously u know that she is not a faithful cookie, and i dont think she will change. Man she is dirty with deseases and stuff. I think that you should get rid of her, your waisting your time and money. She needs to go take care of her daughter and herself, she has so many responsibilities and she is hiding from them. Her husband kicked her out because she is obviously not a good person. I think that you are complicating your life for no reason. You should be going out with friends, anjoying life... not thinking about other peoples horrible lifes, and if she loved you she wouldnt drag you into the huge mess that she created.

good luck

Anna

[Got Boost???]

Well normally I would just recommend getting Gran Turismo 4 but in this case I............

wait......

no........

I take that back, get Gran Turismo 4.

But in all seriousness from my experience I've learned "Once a cheater, always a cheater"

Cause just think of the mind set of it. She knew what she was doing, she knew she was cheating and for her to go on with it she had to convinve herself it was ok, convinving herself that she wasn't doing anything wrong. In her mind she did nothing wrong. She may or may not see it as wrong now, but thats not what matters.

What matters is that it all started somewhere, She cheated and she could not bring herseld to realize that it was wrong. Whos to say that shes not going to do it again? Im sure if you asked her the first day you met her if she would cheat on you she would most definatly say NO.

Why? Becuase people see cheaters as mean malicious people that make stupid choices. And no one sees them self like that. Even when she was with the other guy she didn't see it as wrong. She had convinced herself lie, after lie, excuse after excuse, that she was not doing anything wrong.

She cheated before because she didn't see it as cheating

So whats stopping her from cheating again. She's already proven that she can justify even the most shameful actions without second thought.

I saw leave her, instilling your trust in her again will only result in the same outcome.

[missinthe93]

WOW MAN...There are plenty of chicks out there that don't do that to guys so I definitely say MOVE ON!!! Don't torture yourself...

[pwr2thaboost]

I personally, am a chic, and well, u seem like a really nice dude...but, being a chic and all, i know how the mind of some girls works...and if this chic says she wants to re-experiance her "childhood" or whatever, then what that basically means to her is a life of one night stands and so forth...i hate to say it but, she is soooo TOTALLY using u, do the math, see it from her perspective
Husband kiks her out + wants a good time + 20 yr old kid with house= FREEBIE!!!! so in the words of a fellow member

"RUN LIKE HELL!!!!!!!!!!"

[runner1738]

its funny cause that is everyones thought i thought it was real but i guess i was fooling myself, weve technically broken up twice once cause she wanted to sleep with her friend to reintroduce him into a sex life cause he has severe emotional pain or drama or whatever, and 2) cause she found me talking to this girl online that lives in ohio and she doesnt trust me with

[bananchik232]

if i was u i would move to another state and change your name, hoping she never finds you.

[SiG]

well she was married when you two hooked up right? I mean, she was cheating back then, so what makes ya think she stopped now? Sorry man, i dont mean any disrespect to ya, but ya need to get rid of her, get her completely out of your life, once and for all. Sorry to hear abt this saddening situation

[runner1738]

yea she was but it took me a while to realize that i mean its not like it was the first thing she said, yea i know i was naive to think she would change, but when she is living with me and calling me her boyfriend, then spends all day with this guy that i drive her to go see, maybe i thought she would have more respect for me then that

[runner1738]

yea actually we got in a fight today cause bascially i just picked up laptop it has been at compusa for the past 2 days then we go out get mail and other things, then her frined( andy the one she spends all her time with calls) and is like hey i got done early but im just doing laundry and whatever, then i go start up my computer and am on it like 10 min then she freaks out walks out of the bedroom says i should have taken the bus it would have been faster, saying things like you shuld have known i wanted to leave right away to see him, saying your boyfriend you should know these things, and weve known each other for 3 months and you cant tell those things about, are you kidding me ? has anyone else gotten this?

[runner1738]

so has anyone else experienced there girlfriend wanting to spend time with another guy even if he is just doing his laundry or getting a haircut, over spending time with you, no matter what you might be doing? acting like he is the most important thing in the world ,and you cant be late to meet him.

[SiG]

Man sorry for not replying here, but i feel you gotta drop her man
If this is how its going now, it aint gonna get better unless she really wants to make that change in her life. She seems unsure of what she wants. Im sorry to hear what you're going through. Ive been lucky, my girlfriend has never wanted to spend time with anyone else. And if she did, id drop her because anyone who can do that to someone simply aint worth it. Good luck

[runner1738]

thanks but things gotten worse and better in some cases, yea i think i want to drop her as my girlfriend but she still is a cool person and i dont know how to explain that to her, without brekaing her heart or whatever, so right now im just watching my step