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I know nobody can tell me what to do and all the damn "help me with my girlfriend" threads are abundant but...
So Im a freshmen in college and have only been here like 2 weeks. I am guy who loves to party and go out so I am not really one to ever be "tied" down to a girl.
So I came to college with a good friend, who is female, and we kinda used to have something together. Then we just kinda became just friends again because I did not want a girlfriend at the time just cause, well honestly, I hate commitment. She knows it too...
Well now were in college and she just said she really likes me again but knows I dont want a girlfriend or anything. But she wanted to tell me to "state the obvious and just let me know". I mean, I do like her and we spend alot of time together but I am once again almost scared to commit. I know she would be good for me, she would treat me amazing and I know that, I just dont know...
Well here comes the twist- I met this other girl last week and we both really like each other also. The girl I mentioned above knows about us and saw us making out hardcore at a party last week when we were totally trashed, didnt say too much about it but just kinda joked ya know? I dont know this new girl that well but we have a great time together and she likes to party with me and my friends and is actually friends with all my friends in college and thats how I met her. The other girl from above is not really into partying.
So i dont know what to do about them...I dunno...just need someone to talk to because all my friends are either friends of one of them so dont wanna talk to them about it.
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I think that maybe in your friendship with the first girl, you got comfortable. And now you want something new. Or maybe you just don't look at her like that. Because if you really liked her enough to be with her, you wouldn't have been making out with the other girl. I think you should just go with your feelings, and that seems to be the new girl. But you should be careful because you HAVE only known this other girl a week...that's like nothing really. She could turn out to be or something....lol.
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i dont think relationships with party girls last.
because you cant really trust them because they always go out.
the first girl looks like the one for you sinc eyou guys are like bestest best friends.
the 1st girl is like your best "girl" friend. Now here's the difference: even though she told you how she felt doesn't mean she wants you to commit to her. Don't you think she'd already understood that?! Some guys need more time to get that 'wild' lifestyle out of their system. This new girl (2nd) is just a thing. Unless something happens b/w now and the next few years. But, outta my experiences w/ my guy friends in your situation...most the time the "party girl" usually doesnt' last long and if it does it ends badly. You may even mess up your freindship w/ others because if she's one of the chicks in your group of friends and you two fight really bad...she could turn those ppl against you. And some chicks will do it too!
But, for now, I think you should talk to your girlfriend and till her the truth. You never know...she may not seem like the "one" right now...but when your wild strike is over she may just be the one waiting for you all this time. *shrug* Happens like that sometimes. Just enjoy the time w/ her that you have now. No commitments.
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I know nobody can tell me what to do and all the damn "help me with my girlfriend" threads are abundant but...
So Im a freshmen in college and have only been here like 2 weeks. I am guy who loves to party and go out so I am not really one to ever be "tied" down to a girl.
So I came to college with a good friend, who is female, and we kinda used to have something together. Then we just kinda became just friends again because I did not want a girlfriend at the time just cause, well honestly, I hate commitment. She knows it too...
Well now were in college and she just said she really likes me again but knows I dont want a girlfriend or anything. But she wanted to tell me to "state the obvious and just let me know". I mean, I do like her and we spend alot of time together but I am once again almost scared to commit. I know she would be good for me, she would treat me amazing and I know that, I just dont know...
Well here comes the twist- I met this other girl last week and we both really like each other also. The girl I mentioned above knows about us and saw us making out hardcore at a party last week when we were totally trashed, didnt say too much about it but just kinda joked ya know? I dont know this new girl that well but we have a great time together and she likes to party with me and my friends and is actually friends with all my friends in college and thats how I met her. The other girl from above is not really into partying.
So i dont know what to do about them...I dunno...just need someone to talk to because all my friends are either friends of one of them so dont wanna talk to them about it.
Well, I would say no commitment right now for you.
But, tell the friend that you have known for a while how you feel about her, but that you are not ready for commitment.
For the party girl, keep her as just that, do not let her get in the way of your friendship with this other girl, cause that could ruin things in the long run.
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[my2cents] Spend your first semester just getting yourself oriented to the whole college scene. You're probably going to meet more hot and interesting girls there than you ever thought existed. Be friends with all of them and wait for the one that really makes you happy in every way when you're with her. [/my2cents]
The girl"friend" knows and has wanted me to "commit" or whatever and be her "boyfriend" for a while but I am really bad at commitment honestly. She even said to me last night, Im not looking for a boyfriend but when Im with you I cant help but want you as mine, blah blah blah. There just isnt that physical attraction tho, shes not ugly or anything like that, but for some reason Im just not physically attracted to her? I dont know...
The other one used to work at Hooter's if that says anything, LOL. But I mean, we get along more than just physically tho too. The "friend" isnt much of going out and drinking and stuff like that, while thats what I do, but she is fine with that.
I know the 1st one is better for me, but maybe I just want something new... I dunno...
if there isnt a physical attraction then it may be kind of hard to be in a relationship with the first girl. i had that problem, a really cool girl that would treat me awesome and i liked hanging out with and wasn't ugly but i just didnt feel physically attracted to her
in my situation however there wasn't a 2nd girl and in the end we ended up going our seperate ways. i cant say that i regret my decision either and im not saying to go with the 2nd girl. i was just merly stating my experience.
Last edited by PistolPete; 08-27-2004 at 06:50 PM.
i agree with greenkermit.....who knows how things will turn out! the girl told you how she felt knowing how you felt already. that should tell you something. i know how she feels cuz im in that exact situation right now. i am willing to wait for my guy (for awhile, not my whole life!) to see the light and realize what he has with me. but, like your girl friend, i think its going to be a case of "you don't know what you got til its gone." once she is no longer there for you, you will realize she is the one. Good luck.
things'll work out in the end... plenty of fish in the sea... all of that crap they feed ya... honestly, though... with the first girl -- if you're not attracted to her, then you shouldn't be with her... that's not shallow, it's just one of the parts of a relationship that needs to be there (especially in the beginning) for it to function properly (we learned about this in health in high school back in the day ) ... the second girl -- go ahead and screw around with her... just remember though that if you hooked up with her at a party, others probably have, and others may eventually... just keep your options open till somethin really good pops up... college may have a lot of hot girls, but you wouldnt want to be in a relationship with *just* a hot girl... try to find a girl who's like your friend + the party girl... yah... ... ... good luck!
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Bah- this is useless. I am retarted and met and hooked up with another girl at a party last night... but I went to the party with this girl so its a little better than just hooking up with her at the party...
So now, everything I was thinking about the other 2 just got even more complicated, haha.
just be sure that by the time you really wanna hookup with a girl and make it official that you aren't known as a player or a "****ty-man" (heh) or anything... made it realllly hard for my uncle to get with his wife, AND last summer (even though it is far from true about me) i lost a great girl because her friends told her i was that kinda guy...
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the first one. the best relationships start with friendship. but if u don't want an actual gf f*ck the second one and let that be that and move on to the next ho. haha.
or something....lol. 
) ... the second girl -- go ahead and screw around with her... just remember though that if you hooked up with her at a party, others probably have, and others may eventually... just keep your options open till somethin really good pops up... college may have a lot of hot girls, but you wouldnt want to be in a relationship with *just* a hot girl... try to find a girl who's like your friend + the party girl... yah... ... ... good luck! 
