My best friend is getting really boring, what should I do?
My best friend is a girl ok. We have been friends for about 4 yrs. now. Well she lives about 30 min away from me and usually I will go to her apartment and chill with her. Well lately it seems that whenever I go over to her apartment, all we do is sit in the living room while she smokes weed and I just watch tv. I stopped smoking because I am gonna go back to school and want a job. She never wants to go out anywhere. She doesnt want to go drinking, doesnt want to go to other people's house, just sit at home and smoke. The other day I was planning on going to her house in the morning so we could go get her car fixed, but when I got there it was raining and she didnt want to go. We ended up sitting in her living room the hole day. Even people that come over get so bored they will make up some excuse so they have to leave. 2 of her work friends came over the other day and this chicks boyfriend asked me if she had a playstation or something because he was bored out of his mind. They left after like an hour. Even her ex-boyfriend that comes over will take a bar or something so he will just pass out cause he gets bored. I usually will also make some excuse because I get tired of sitting. Well today she calls me this morning and asks if I would come over when she got out of work. I told her to come to my house which I knew she would say no because she never wants to drive anywhere. I didnt want to go over because I knew we would just sit and also I drive my car too much and wanted to take it easy. Well eventually she said she would come get me and we would go back to her house. She said do you want me to come get you, and I said if you want to and she got all pissed and hung up on me. I haven't talked to her since. She is also giving me the excuse that she has no friends no more. Probably cause she is boring. What do you all think I should do. She is my best friend and all, but is getting really boring where I dont want to hang out with her.
Maybe you can try help her off the weed and just go out the park or club or something, I don't see anyone being that llazy. does she ever go to yoru house?
Trust me she is lazy, she has been to my house, when I go to get her, one her own she never comes over. She wont stop smoking weed for anything. She wont go to clubs or go out, she doesnt like doing that. She likes to sit at home and smoke. I have tried so many times for her to go out but she wont. It is rediculous.
that's rough man, if you really think it's completely hopeless and there's no chance of you helping her, maybe you should kind back off a little but, you two are friends, she shouhld understand what's going on too. Get her a puppy or something
sounds exactly like my "best friend"......
he got hooked on weed our senior year in high school, we use to always go out and do stuff, ever since i went away to college two years ago, hes changed so much.
although he works about 60 hours a week, he doesnt do anything but sit at home ALL DAY even on his days off. He just smokes weed, eats, and sleeps. I hardly ever talk to him now/see him. We use to always chill at his house and go out, but now its sooo boring. No one ever goes over there cause we all know that if we go, we're going to be bored outta our minds and no one really smokes anymore. i want to say something to him, but i feel as though hes just going to blow it off. Its obvious hes addicted to it, but he'll never admit it.
That is why I dont say anything, I know she will blow me off and get all pissed. She also takes alot of aderal. when I say alot, I mean alot. Also getting her a puppy wont work. She has 2 cats that pee everywhere. Her apartment smells like cat piss. It is kinda bad. Well I am not going to call her for a few days. I know to some of you that might not be right since she is my best friend, but I don't know what else to do. I tried to give her the hint last night that it is boring going to her house,but she doesnt listen.
Let me tell you a little something, I am 27 yrs old, and alot of my old friends are the same way, same age as me. we used to hang out all the time. they started smoking pot all the time but i have nothing to do with it. I can't even go to their house without someone breaking out a bong. Most of them worked FT jobs and started slacking, now ALL OF THEM are on welfare, claim they can't be around people. If its a perfect beach day, they stay in the house ALL day, smoking, playing video games, at 27yrs old. I gave up on them, i have no friends now but im happier. If you truely care about your friend and you are 100% sure that she WANTS help, you can say she does, but she has to say it herself, then do what you can to help her. If she says that she doesn't need it, then its hopeless.You have to use the same effect that they use on alcoholics, tell her your leaving her, don't call don't come see me, tell her she needs help and when she gets herself straightened out you will see what happens. Make her see the problem and start avoiding it. This is the best I can tell you, I have been going to AA meetings for 20yrs with my fathers drinking, I know what works, i will never get those years back and I don't want to remember them. I wish the best of luck to you.
[. If you truely care about your friend and you are 100% sure that she WANTS help, you can say she does, but she has to say it herself, then do what you can to help her. If she says that she doesn't need it, then its hopeless.You have to use the same effect that they use on alcoholics, tell her your leaving her, don't call don't come see me, tell her she needs help and when she gets herself straightened out you will see what happens. Make her see the problem and start avoiding it. This is the best I can tell you,
I kinda agree with this guy man...
I know how you feel about your bestfriend cuz we all have Best friends, but sometimes, you have to tell your friend what's wrong and what's right and try to help her by telling that "this is wrong and not right" stuffs like that. Try to have more conversation with her man.
how about this -
u - "hey u wanna go see white chicks?"
her - "neh. i just wanna go to my crib and chill."
u - "ill pick u and and pay for ya."
her - "im not really in the mood."
u - "well im goin alone then. i really wanted u to go but whatever. have fun ALONE."
usually if this happens w/ one of my friends ill try and coax them to go w/ me. i have plenty of boring friends... and id rather go do something small for a short period of time instead of just goin to their house and being bored to death. maybe if u just let her know that you DO want to be around her and go out w/ her and chill then she might be more interested in going out. i usually dont take no for an answer and bug them to death. more often than not, i get my way.
What do you mean by she takes a lot of Adderrall. My son takes a lot of Adderrall for ADD/ADHD. It has nothing to do with depression. In fact he is 150 times better ON the medication.
So is she OD-ing herself on the Adderrall too? It is a controlled substance.
