[civic_sedan]

Hey whats up guys...i'm a senior in high school and this issue has come up.

I am a well respected guy, just about everyone in my highschool knows me as i've done something with them (sports wise...or class wise) but i usually chill with my boys at lunch and whatnot but in the last few months i've started to chill a lot with this chick.

now before any of you get started..YES she is just a friend...she's pretty sexy, but still she's a friend...anyway me and her have gotten closer and closer as we just talk about anything and everything...but i notice that now that we are really really close...she almost doesn't give me a lot of respect in front of some of my friends..and it drives me nuts because they look at me wierd expecting me to diss her or something..she'll make comments and stuff and i'll just laugh it off but the other guys will come up to me later and ask why i didn't diss her back or whatever...it's because i expect to be treated a certain way....i treat ppl the way i'd like to be treated and that attitude has gotten me through a lot since guys won't disrespect me because i don't take shiat...however since i've been talking to this chick so much i feel like this time i DO have something to lose if i diss her back and whatnot, i've gone thru this with her before i even stopped talkin to her for a week because she said something really offensive and i just told her to fcuk off. However, shortly after we decided whatever forget about it and move on.

and now i'ts happening again..i dunno what to say to her as i just want a little respect from her end...constantly bashing me in front of my friends here and there isn't cool even if she's trying to 'be the cool one' there.

so what do u guys think

(sorry for the long story )

[BausHaug]

If your not getting any from her, she's fair game. If she's chillin wit you and made it clear that she just wants to be friends, treat her just like one of your friends and maybe she'll get the hint that she meant a little more than she first led on.

[CdnSilverStreak]

You have to let her know. She may not be aware that what she says is offending you. Speak to her and go assert yourself.

[civic_sedan]

but see, i told her last month or so that she was offending me and shiat but she apologized a few times and i was like alright whatever...

i dunno...she can say whatever in good fun, but when her jokes are just stupid and offensive i feel wierd not 'retaliating'

blah..

[civic_sedan]

Originally Posted by BausHaug

If your not getting any from her, she's fair game. If she's chillin wit you and made it clear that she just wants to be friends, treat her just like one of your friends and maybe she'll get the hint that she meant a little more than she first led on.

don't quite get what your saying...and as for 'treating her like my friends' i don't do that because she's a really good friend that i'm close with.

i don't treat ALL my frenz the same

[jttegx]

^^woooo... thats gotta work

i was thinking if you treat her the way she treats you and hopefully she will figure it out "why is 'josh' treating me this way?... theirs only one way to find out.. ASKING HIM!"
next day, ring ring, hey josh, why are u treating me like this lately? wtf did i do to make you do this?


then the serious chat begins...

goodluck

[88AccordDX]

Or treat her like Buddy would treat that girl in Scary Movie 2... Like a real GUY Friend!

"Think fast!" and bean her in the head with a football!


On a serious note, if she's dissing you in front of your friends and you're not standing up for it, then next time take her by suprise and do what Prod said. That'll make her know who's the bitch and who's the butch. Got it?

[civic_sedan]

hm....awesome advice guys..next time she's gonna get 0wned

...but in a polite "innocent" way.....hmuahahah

thanks again

[white2K2EX]

It's highschool - the home of saying one thing and doing another. Making fun of someone in high school is usually a form of flirting.

Here's how to get her to stop it... make her think you're not afraid of losing her - as a friend or possibility for more.

[Boiler_Room]

Yo man that's rough, I went through the same thing...

The girl ended up being a hoe, and trying to hook up with all my friend, even while I was with her.

Think of it this way: If you were hanging out with the group of girl friends, you'd try so hard to make yourself look great, for the sake of the girl your with and yourself. It's highschool, it's weird.. but your going to come out of this situation a better person and more aware of girls and how they think.

[shmik1]

this is the same thing as always, girls always seem to get the upper hand, it's either speak your mind and tell the truth and if she leaves so be it, or say things you don't mean just to make her happy while you yourself aren't. I know this guy who is whipped so to speak, but I think he's worse than that he has no balls to tell his girl how he really feels, it's total bullshit IMO. However he is that concerned with keeping her around.. In your case i'd say if you two become couple that will change attitudes and conversations, and if not and you two are just friends, i'd agree with everyone else and politely diss her back