Ok my prom was two weeks ago and about three weeks ago my friend set me up with this girl i never met before. we ended up going out to lunch to just get to know each other and we had a blast right away. the next week we ended up talking for like 4 hours every day just getting to know each other. then the weekend of prom is impossible to explain in words. we had way more fun then i thought possible. we ended up spending friday/saturday/sunday together. (for all you pervs out there nothing happened, and frankly i dont mind that one bit) then the next weekend we went out to a movie with two other friends who were interested in each other. once again that went very well, we had a fun time and we went back to her house and just lay there on her couch watching tv (which i didnt see much of cause i was looking at her most of the time). then this past thursday we went to a movie with the same couple and for some reason she seemed very distant (dont know how else to explain it). so then when i got home i said screw it i want to ask this girl out because i dont know whats going on and dont know if shes interested or what. well she doesnt really say no, but it wasnt a yes either. shes a year younger then me and i just graduated high school so im going to college next year, and she seems to have something against the highschool/college realtionship. and then she doesnt want to start dating now because she'll be gone a lot over summer. and also when she goes to college shed want to break up for at least a while so she wouldnt be held back from meeting new people and doing new things by a relationship. well yesterday i decided to talk to her about whats going on. so pretty much she is interested, but theres a lot of things that might get in the way, but she did say it is possible she might do the college/highschool relationship, but when she goes off to college shed still want to break up and theres almost no changing that. so we decided to just hang out whenever we can over summer and just be friends for now. but what im wondering is, am i just setting myself up for a bigger fall later on? should i just cut it off right now? i really dont want to, but i dont know if its best or what. i really like this girl, and i just met her three weeks ago, so its kinda crazy but its just how i feel. plus im afraid she wont want to do an inter-college realtionship since wed see each other so little, but i think she might be willing to at least try it out after being in college for a while and meeting new people then getting back together if she still wants to. plz post what you guys/gals think...
Last edited by ricergribbs : 06-06-2004 at 01:38 PM.
oh, and for my first year of college i would actually be in the area still, so we would be able to see each other whenever we wanted to. but then next year when she goes off to college she doesnt know where shes going yet so im not sure how that would work out yet.
hmmmm..........that is tough. It seems that you really like this girl and she likes you......but she is afraid to get too attached. You can't force her to go out with you........maybe just remain friends and hang out (easier said than done). Who knows, she may go to a school that is farther away. Things happen for a reason......... whatever happens, happens.
btw........go to college single, you will have way more fun
yeah ive heard that you have more fun if your single going into college, but it kinda sucks what you just met someone like this and you really dont care about that anymore. ive had more fun with her in 3 weeks then when in any of my other relationships. and yeah thats what ive been thinking, whatever happens happens. and thing is that ive never talked to her before, then 3 weeks before schools ends we meet and have this much fun.
This is the only piece of advise I can give you...
"Even though the time will be short at least you won't be wondering later down the road about just how wonderful it would have been for you both."
Even if the time will be short you have to live for that moment together. The more you think about the future thing the more you'll back away, but just think of all the great memories you'll be getting in the meantime. It'll hurt IF when she starts college to break things off for a bit, but at least you'll always have the good times you had before together.
thnx man thats actually some pretty good advice. i think i mightve ****ed things up tonight though, she called me and we ended up going out as just friends. it was way too early though. i just told her that cause her away message on aim was way wierd and said she made a huge mistake. i apologized for acting wierd (which i did cause i didnt know what to do seeing as she sorta said no to my asking her out like yesterday). hopefully we will still hang out i really want to, but ill see... thnx for the advice guys, and plz keep it coming. right now im actually a bit drunk so sry if this post doesnt make sense. even when i am drunk im still thinking about her. im at my friends graduation party, with a bunch of my good friends, and im still thinking about her and im hammered. god damn it, life ****ing sucks... i thought it was worth the pain to be with her but i dont even know anymore. if she is acting like this... this is me talking while im drunk so ill post something tomorrow when im actually sober, but ill prolly still say life sucks...
man all the advice you were given is bad, im sorry to say guys..
Look i just got out a 4 year relationship so i know what im speaking here
Graduating from HS was scary as hell. Going From dallas to Lubbock (Texas Tech) was the best thing that ever happen to me. She also was a Junior but we wanted to stay together...but she was going to a diff college when she graduated,, And that wouldnt work out so we decided to stay together until she went to College. .So when i came to school i couldnt club, i couldnt party and couldnt drink because i was afraid to mess up the relationship. so shes goes and parties in HS and im miserable.. I hadnt seen her in 3 months, talked to her in a couple weeks so i was feeling bad. my friends who i made wuickly 20,000 people its easy to make friends.. pressure me and pressure me to go to the club. i met a couple people (girls) who i just became friends with and they told me to break up with her for 1 month, if i missed her after that to go back. so i told her i was gonna take a 1 month break from the relationship.. i had so much damn fun... i forgot to call her back 1 month, 3 months later.....so 6 months later she calls and says where am i. realizing i forgot to call, but she didnt bother either that continuing the relationship was a mistake..
Bottom line buddy, drop the relationship now.. Your only gonna hurt more later.. and thats not good for you or your future friends... go to college. make friends/club/LAN/ wtf ever intrest you, and enjoy the next 4-6 years. Cause man,. this is the most fun i've ever had....a year and a half straight. Try the one month thing if you have doubts.. if after 1 month yuo have no friends, and no fun, then i guess your screwed either way.. good luck
ok really wtf, right now im wasted. i cant believe i can still type like this. i dont care about anything i can barely sit straight. yet im still thinking about her. only her and nothing else. rigth now i just slapped myself and i couldnt feel anything. life sucks damn it. and just so you know im not driving tonight im sleeping over at my friends. shit, **** this shit. and dont give me this shit about there being other fish in the sea. it sucks when you dont want any of those oter fish doesnt it. shit man, if anyone can help me out plz do. shes gone a lot over sjmer. should i just forget her and find a girl to just have some fun with? as far asi see it, its not gonna work out. we the same thinking, but different methods. like she wants to break up before college so she can see if the the relationship she was in was the right thing. i want to stay together through college to see if the relationship can stand through that kind of test. ok im gonna go to sleep soon, cya all tomorrow prolly, plz post some advice.
obviosly your too drunk to read wtf i said. I WAS IN A 4 YEAR RELATIONSHIP!!. we were talking ****ing marriage bro. ok kids houses all that shit.. other fish in the sea was not an option. or so i was so blindly stupid to think that. re read my post in the morning ok.. and think about what i said... There anrt only bigger fish in the sea, there are whales, and dolphins.. variety is the spice of life bro..ya your gonna miss her, and your gonna be miserable... but its 1 week of mourning for every 3 months of relationship.. so you've known each other for 1 month... thats 3 days of mourning... get drunk and masterbate three days straight then go enjot your life.. the relationship is not gonna work in any form or fashion, and from what it sounds like, shes already trying to break it off now, but your being "clingy" and she doesnt want to hurt you. be a man, let your balls drop, and grow up and over this psuedo-relationship.. im not being mean bro, but someone has to tell you the damn truth
I think deciding to just be friends now was a good choice. Seeing as though, it doesn't seem like she's really interested in a relationship right now.
Since you guys just met and don't really know too much about each other, it's a big possibility that she could be interested in another guy(s).
If you guys are going to be friends, be just that. Friends. None of this "friends with benefits" crap. THAT will be what sets you up for a fall later down the road. Keep it strictly platonic. No kissing, touching, etc. Otherwise, your emotions will most likely overcome you and you might end up falling in love with her. And nothing hurts more than being in love with someone who isn't in love with you.
Hang out and have fun this summer! Just don't expect too much from her.
Friends for now is a good idea, but I can totally understand where you're coming from, I just met a girl on Friday and I've had more fun with her in the 2 days we hung out than I've had in a really long time.
ok so now that i can actually describe what happened when i went ou twith her as "just friends". i dont even know how to explain it, but the best i can is that she wants to be with me but isnt letting herself do it. she has had a lot of bad experiences and loss in her life so i dont know if that has anything to do with it. she actually called me and said that she was watching tv and thought of calling me, wtf does that mean? especially the day after we had a long discussion about if theres anything possible between us, and she said that yes she is very interested.
and frankly ive had other girlfriends, i've been turned down before. i usually just go out with my friends and i forget about them. ive been trying that, ive gotten drunk (frankly for the first time ever im not a heavy drinker), and even when im drunk shes still on my mind.
