Hey, yea well im really suprised that im doing this but the only advice ive got from my friends is "just talk to her, man" so here we go.
basically i go to this gym around my house, play some basketball, workout, whatever. I signed up about 2-3 moths ago. I usually go about 3-5 times a week. both sat and sunday. anyways, there is this girl there that im really attracted to, problem is she only works on the weekends so its hard for me to see her often and slowly start to get to know her. so my problem is that i dont know how to approach her and really be able to get her number so we can hang and or whatever. im not really sure if shes the same wa about me but i think she might be. anyways, botgh of out proms just passed, i know she didnt go to heres cuz someone else that works there told me and i also didnt go to mine. my plan was to talk to her about her prom the day of. she wasnt there but my plan was to mention a friend of mine that she knows and slowly lead to her prom saying oh yea isnt yours tonight or something. then maybe shed be like no isnt urs tonight also anf id br like yea but im not going and then id ask her what shes doing instead and maybe i could invite her to the after party. so liek i said she wasnt there, but even a couple weeks before prom my frriend was talking to her and i like an idiot just stood there and really didnt comment. now as the weeks go by i go every saturday and sunday preety much all day hoping to talk to her. im preety sure shes gonna be there this weekend and i want to finally grow balls, step up to the plate and talk to her. my problem isnt really talking its more getting the convo started. so my question si what should i say that i could getr us talking and maybe even hanging out. in other words, how should i start the conversation, i was thinkin about saying something like so how was ur prom and shed bre like i didnt go so on and so on, now im thinkning that it might upset her that i be like how was ur prom knowing she didnt go. so what should i do. i would really like to get to know this girl just dont know where to start. please give me all ur advice
first is to stop being a wussy(no offense), don't worry too much, show some confidence, girls will have no negative vibe when you walk up to them, only if you start freaking out. This is the best advice I can give you is to be "Cocky and Funny". It will lossen her up and be more comfortable with you. Once after a min or two with the convo, look at something and pretend you about to go do something. Turn around and say by the way do you have email, she will say yes and say great why dont you write it down. Give her paper and pencil, while she at the @ symbol tell her why dont you write down your number as well... Now you got her number in less than five minutes.
Never call the next day, it will show that you are needy and that wont look good. There is so much crap you need to learn, pm your email and I would let you know ways to help you out.
Btw I not that good looking, I just know what to do and learn from masters and from mistakes...
thanx for the help, i think that my problem might be that im too scared to actually start the convo but after id do that i dont know if id have ht balls to go out and ask her for here email or whatever, but thatnx thats helpps alot!
Dude just go in the next 2 times and be like hey what's up. Acknowledge that she exists. When you leave, say bye.
The third, fourth or fifth time, just be like hey I know you talk to so and so a lot but I didn't really catch your name. I'm so and so. Nice to meet you. So you work here a lot? Do you like it? I always wanted to work in a gym because lord knows I need the workout. Lol ROFLMAO. So what do you do? What school do you go to? What's ur major? Yea I tried studying in so and so like you did but after the first week I was done with that. I must be stupid. (look corny, hope she laughs at/with you). Don't grill her with questions. Be like look, I'm gonna go lift for a bit I'll check you in a few. When you leave, say bye _____! Maybe the next time you can talk about prom or wutever the end.
Sometimes you just have to write this shit down and have a staged convo.
I WOULD NOT ask about prom especially if she is a senior. Some girls get really bummed out if they don't have a date and couldn't go.
I think it's best if you acknowledge her like 'armieo' said. Start out slow and work your way into her routine, meaning if you are a constant part of her weekend, she'll get used to seeing you and talking with her shouldn't be so difficult. As far as asking for her number.....show confidence. Us women love it when there is a lot of confidence behind an attraction. How I'd like to be approached....."hey how's it goin'? I see you around here a lot and if you'd like to, I'd like to get to know you a little better?! Blah, blah....conversation and then How 'bout we exchange phone numbers and maybe go do something sometime?" Obviously you want to do the whole acknowledge her a couple of times thing first! Most likely (if she's interested) she'll say ok, we can talk about that and proceed to give you the digits. Some girls are leary about giving out their number, don't be offended by this, just give her yours and hope for the best.
Good luck. Update us when and if anything happens.
I WOULD NOT ask about prom especially if she is a senior. Some girls get really bummed out if they don't have a date and couldn't go.
I think it's best if you acknowledge her like 'armieo' said. Start out slow and work your way into her routine, meaning if you are a constant part of her weekend, she'll get used to seeing you and talking with her shouldn't be so difficult. As far as asking for her number.....show confidence. Us women love it when there is a lot of confidence behind an attraction. How I'd like to be approached....."hey how's it goin'? I see you around here a lot and if you'd like to, I'd like to get to know you a little better?! Blah, blah....conversation and then How 'bout we exchange phone numbers and maybe go do something sometime?" Obviously you want to do the whole acknowledge her a couple of times thing first! Most likely (if she's interested) she'll say ok, we can talk about that and proceed to give you the digits. Some girls are leary about giving out their number, don't be offended by this, just give her yours and hope for the best.
Good luck. Update us when and if anything happens.
He said my advice "helps I guess.." booo
Or was he referring to writing a convo down on paper?
hey 7gencivicboi is right on everything said,,, the cocky/funny line works seems like I read about this before.............If she can't take the cocky funny routine i suggest you walk away,FAR FAR away.
