So being bored one day at work like I always am, I see my ex sign on AIM and I figure what the hell, I say hello. We start talking, catching up on things, and remembering the old days. Well the topic of relationships comes up, and that her bf of the past year and half had recently dumped her. Anywho, she starts talking to me everyday like clockwork and Im thinking its because she is on the rebound and needs some attention. I have no harsh feelings towards her, afterall i broke up with her on the 1st place so I let her vent and so forth on me. Well after week or two of this, she asked if I wanted to hang out and watch a movie or something. Im not exactly busy on weeknights so I agreed and asked if she wanted to come over to my apartment and watch something there.
A few days go by and the movie night comes around. She had some dance performance earlier in the evening so she called me on the way to my place asking if she could just change at my place instead of stopping at home. This is when I really started getting interested in what her intentions were. So she's at my place and we are watching a movie and having a few drinks, when she turns to me and says, "Im bored, lets do something more fun." then starts to playfully pinch and tickle me. So now there is no question in my mind what shes here for, and since we were both a bit tipsy I didnt wanna do anything under the influence Id regret. I played it off and tried to mellow her out for the rest of the night and managed to keep her off me.
I walked her to her car when the night was done, gave her a hug and she honked to me as she drove away. The following few days were followed with the regular chatting and it finally comes out she would be down with just hook ups. Now the only reason I didnt proceed with it the other night was the fact I didnt want her to take it the wrong way and assume I wanted to be back in a relationship with her again. And seeing how she is still recovering from being dumped, I thought the risk of that happening would be greater. I told her I wouldnt mind hooking up, but thats all it would be and she agreed as well. So now, we are on the same footing about booty calls, but here is my real dilema.
I recently was introduced to a mutual friend of like 4 of my other girl friends who I had amazingly never met in the 4 or 5 years ive been with friends with the other girls. Being mutual friends with so many girls, we had a lot of the same interests and sense of humor so we immediately hit it off. We've been talking and shes been over to my place a couple times to hang out. Nothing has happened so far, but I get the feeling something will happen soon. Now, Ive only told like 2 people (excluding this site now, lol) about my situation with the ex. But if word were to get out I was hooking up with her, while trying to set up a relationship with the new girl, im sure I would **** both things up.
Now I want to hook up with my ex, but still go after a relationship with the other girl but Im not really sure if thats the best thing to do. I dont want my ex to lose interest if I blow her off while persuing the other girl, yet at the same time I dont want to be a **** to the new girl and be forkin my ex while Im working on getting with her. If things dont work out with the new girl, then I would have my ex to fall back on for sex, but I would rather have the new girl. I dont know what to do really.. Im so confused, its the battle of the penis vs the brain and right now they are on equal ground. ahhhhh
well do you want a relationship or some fun? Sex gets old pretty quick if there isn't anything emotional to back it up .... and you said yourself that you would rather have the new girl.
But if you don't give it a try you'll always be asking yourself 'what if' and that is something that is even worse to live with. Trust me man, I ended up taking the same step and I've been this my girl for almost 2 years and still going strong.
And like you said, it would be back to square one so you could always go back to the EX, but like i said a physical relationship without meaning behind it really does get old quick.
I would say to go after the new girl. You already said that you would rather be with her then hang out with your ex. If things dont work out with the new girl im sure your ex will still be interested in hooking up...as long as that is what she really wanted. Maybe she was just telling you that she was interested in hooking up, and as soon as you guys hook up a couple of times she was going to tell you her real intentions...This is why Ex girlfriends should stay Ex's....even if you are just hooking up.
Originally posted by NoFriends
Now I want to hook up with my ex, but still go after a relationship with the other girl but Im not really sure if thats the best thing to do. I dont want my ex to lose interest if I blow her off while persuing the other girl, yet at the same time I dont want to be a **** to the new girl and be forkin my ex while Im working on getting with her. If things dont work out with the new girl, then I would have my ex to fall back on for sex, but I would rather have the new girl. I dont know what to do really.. Im so confused, its the battle of the penis vs the brain and right now they are on equal ground. ahhhhh
Whoa, that is the same exact thing that is happening to me right now, but after some good advice from Jennifer, I have decided without a doubt that it is my ex for a reason, and I am persuing new and better things
exactly ... they are your EX for a reason ... and girls aren't like civics where EX is the nice model. The new girl is really what you need to go after bro
i have been in the same situation for many years. my ex and I broke up in high school and since then i've been gettin' w/ other chicks all at the same time as i'm still bangin' her out. there is nothing wrong with meeting new women and having a good time as long as you do it safely. if your on an understanding with your ex that it is what it is then you have nothing to worry about. she shouldn't or shoudl I say, its none of her business on what it is you do with other women because honestly, she is probably getting with other guys besides yourself. same goes for that new girl. she's prob. been seeing some other guys too and is just finding out which one she likes best. sorry to say, but thats the way the world works. people will be people and that includes dating other people simultaneously. so my friend, i say do what you must....but i'd be with both chicks if i were you. word
