G/f of 3yrs. cheated with good friend....advice needed

EX_04Coupe · 05-05-2004

HI,

Well first of all i want to introduce myself. My name is Adam and im 20 years old i hate this to be my first post but i seriously need help. In March i traded in my 96 Honda Accord for a brand new 2004 EX Coupe (5sp), I was the happiest until last week when i g/f which i dearly love told me my friend expressed his feelings to her and wants to date her. She told him no but i guess that was a lie. The guy told my g/f he used me just to see my g/f and get to know her. I was driving by his house 5 days ago and thats when i seen her car on his driveway. I was shocked and very pissed off at the same time. She is currently seeing the guy but always calls me , tells me she loves me and still has sex with me all the time. I am in sooooo much pain, i loved the girl with all of my heart and now nothing matters to me anymore. I feel like she is the only one i want to be with. Do any of you guys have any advice how to get over it?? As much as i try to ignore her i always end up talking to her. Its like i dont even care that i have a brand new car . Hopefully i can get over this because all i think about is her 24/7. Thank You for reading this and i would appreaciate some feedback.

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kyle4583 · 05-05-2004

there are pleny of fish in the sea. obviosly this wasnt the right one as she cheated on you. becareful who your FRIENDS are. just cut her loose and eventually you will be all set.

NoFriends · 05-05-2004

I actually caught my gf cheating on me with my best friend once. That was hell for 3 days... couldnt eat, sleep or think the entire time. I know what your going through man, and just ride it out. Things will get better, and eventually you will see you are the better person for moving on.

DaveyD · 05-05-2004

"Once they stray.. stay away"

targetpractice · 05-05-2004

Well first congrats on the new car. Second dude. I know its tough but you dont need people like that in your life. My Ex of 10 years did the same thing to me. Sure it was hard for the first month or two but trust me it does get easier. As Kyle4583 said there are plenty of fish in the sea. Its tough but remember we are here for you weather you need help with your car or life.

SubstanceX · 05-05-2004

ya man just let it go.
If she didn't fall for that guy she probably would fall for someone else.

guamcivic2k1 · 05-05-2004

damn this happend to me too..but i was teh best friend...im sorry this happened to you..

ShoelessEX · 05-05-2004

Things happen for a reason, I am a true believer of that...there will be something better out there for you. I know it hurts...turst me I have been there more times than a person SHOULD, but I was able to pick myself up and move on...and Im glad I did.

Take it as a sign...if she could do something like that to you, I hate to say it, but she doesnt love you as much as she says she does. People who love eachother dont hurt them, and continue to hurt them.

We're here for you...thats whats so great about this site

we are very caring people

runner1738 · 05-05-2004

sucks but it sounds like she is a friends with benefits now, but do you really want her knowing htat your friend may have been the same places as you have been? is friendship worth working it out? if it is then work it out, but if not then the only way to get over her is to never be around her

Titleist71 · 05-05-2004

want me to kick her ass?

EX_04Coupe · 05-05-2004

I guess you guys are right, she just really messes with my head. She still tells me she cant live without me, that im the only one for her and all that crap but is seeing him? She also told me she would kill herslef is she seen me kissing another girl

white2K2EX · 05-05-2004

Been there. Dated a girl for a while, and out of the blue, she called me up and told me it was over. She never gave me a real explanation. I was crushed over that. Nearly a year later, I called a different girl to see if she wanted to go out that weekend. Thankfully, she said yes, but we got to talking... and this girl was at the same place where my ex-gf had brazenly cheated on me with a guy I knew and had played in bands with. It’s amazing. Now, I look back and realize that the girl was a piece of trash. I was just too blind to see it at the time. I’m not angry that she did it anymore – just that none of those people there who were my “friends” had the balls to tell me. She’s tried to get back with me dozens of times, both as a serious relationship and as friends with benefits. She’s invited me to stay the night in her dorm and her house, she’s invited me over for no-strings-attached bjs and such. I’ve turned her down every time. It hurts her more than it ever hurt me.

You’ll survive. I did. I’m sure you will.

white2K2EX · 05-05-2004

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Originally posted by EX_04Coupe
She also told me she would kill herslef is she seen me kissing another girl

Find a beautiful young lady and a digicam. Snap away.

EX_04Coupe · 05-05-2004

I guess you guys are right, she just really makes me confused. She still tells me how much she loves me, how i am the only one she wants to spend the rest of her life with. I knew her ever since she was 10 and we started dating when she turned 16. Its just sooo hard because she lives like 5 blocks away from me and everything reminds me of her.

phuviano · 05-05-2004

I say just forgot about her and move on. It seems as if your still attached to her. Let's put it this way. If she tells you, she can't live without you, then why is she seeing this other guy? It doesn't make much sense, does it?

Just let her go. You got plenty of time to find another girl. Your only 20 years old.

She told you that she would kill herself if she saw you kissing another girl??? Sounds like she's psycho. I would just stay away from her.

GL adam.