friend problem

daydreamer · 04-25-2004

ok...i have a problem...duh...thats why i'm in the advice thread...

last night, i go out with my bf and friends...i usually hang around all his guy friends and we did something different and hung out with all my gfs...well...one had a bad night...and she just wanted to kiss a random guy...well when she gets over that kick...SHE STARTS FLIRTING WITH MY BF!!! she was like me and jess has the same taste in guys...and when i asked them what they thought of my bf since it was the first time my friends met him, she just turned around and started walking away...

i talked to my bf later that night when we were about to go to sleep...he said he knew she was flirting with him, and that i had nothing to worry about...i trust my bf...i know he would never cheat on me cause he was cheated on before so he knows how it feels...but it pisses me off when my friend flirts with my bf right in front of me...i feel that i should talk to her, but i'm afraid she wouldn't admit that she was and just yell at me about all the stuff how i could i accuse her of doing something like that...even though i know she was cause i know how she flirts...blah...

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civicstyle82 · 04-25-2004

Kill her, j/k

Just talk to her, if you're good enough friends I'm sure you'll be able to talk about it comfortably.

Mystic3030 · 04-25-2004

It's so weird how girls do that...almost all guys obey the unwritten/unspoken rule that you dont flirt with your buddies girlfriend.

But I guess, as long as you trust your boyfriend I wouldent worry about it, however, I would drop the friend.

Mr.Modify · 04-25-2004

just talk to her about it....you'll never know till you ask.

sivikchik · 04-26-2004

u know what girl - tell that bitch she needs to step the fcuk off cuz he is OFF THE DATING MARKET. for real - i WOULD NOT go for that... my friends are respectful enough not to go near any guy i am talking to or i am dating or whatnot... its just something that u dont do...

so heres what u do -
a.) tell her u KNOW she was flirting w/ your man.. dont give her a second to argue.
b.) tell her to knock the shit off
c.) tell her shes not his type anyways
d.) let her know that friends or not - no bitch should be flirting w/ your man and if it happens again youll call her ass out on the spot and deal w/ it a little differently than calmly talking to her cuz obviously it didnt work

and u should tell your man that next time (if there is a next time) he should be a little more outspoken and tell her to step off...

if she is a real friend she will understand u with NO argument at all... its not like u are threatening her life - i mean u can say what i wrote much nicer - so she should be respectful toward u and your relationship... damn... i hate people like that

Pharoh · 04-26-2004

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Originally posted by Mystic3030
It's so weird how girls do that...almost all guys obey the unwritten/unspoken rule that you dont flirt with your buddies girlfriend.

But I guess, as long as you trust your boyfriend I wouldent worry about it, however, I would drop the friend.

w3rd. I would never make a play on my friends girl, that's just totally out of line.

Example. This one d00d I didn't know made attempts on my ex and when he found out I was her b/f he came out and appologized for it.

daydreamer · 04-28-2004

well i seen my "friend" just now...i was tellin my girl's about my bf since they didn't know that i was hooked up again since i haven't seen them in a while...i said ashley met him...she was like what?...then i said you met kyle...she's like oh on saturday...i won't say anything cause you might think i was hitting on him...i just smiled...kinda my evil smirk smile...she just looked back at me and started talkin to someone else...

GreenKermet_Si · 05-03-2004

Girlie, she's a bitch and in the world of girl...the strongest bitch wins.

You should know that by now. You trust your guy? Good. But, remember this one rule and you'll do just fine...

"Keep your enemies close; but your friends even closer." Your friends are the ones more out to get you then your enemies...because they know your weakness more than your enemies would.

Trust me. I've had a few backstabbers in my life try and I did have a few actually take one of my first big loves from me. Sucks like Hell.

Just confront her but nicely. Tell her your guy totally loves you and wanted to know why the f*ck she was trying to piss you off by flirting w/ him. Go from there. Let her know he's not even interested in her sorry ass and move on. You may even need to rethink that friendship while your at it.

Good luck.

daydreamer · 05-04-2004

she knew what i was thinkin last time i saw her...(described in my last post in this thread) i think she was kinda afraid and thats why she looked at me kinda shocked and then started lookin for someone else to talk too...i've been told that people dont wanna p!ss me off cause they are afraid of me...not just girls...guys too...even one here on the forum...but anywho...i haven't talked to her since that night and she did apologize about it...

but i do agree it is an unwritten/unspoken law...YOU DONT MESS WITH SOMEONE'S GUY/GIRL

i did explain to my bf i was the jealous type...told him i'll work on it...if he can handle guys asking me to free the twins and grope my a$$...i can handle other girls flirting with him...even friends...

i just went on and on...probably got off topic...

Connie · 05-04-2004

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Originally posted by sivikchik

so heres what u do -
a.) tell her u KNOW she was flirting w/ your man.. dont give her a second to argue.
b.) tell her to knock the shit off
c.) tell her shes not his type anyways
d.) let her know that friends or not - no bitch should be flirting w/ your man and if it happens again youll call her ass out on the spot and deal w/ it a little differently than calmly talking to her cuz obviously it didnt work

aka open a can of insta-bitch on her

AdmireMyGr8ness · 05-04-2004

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Originally posted by GreenKermet_Si
"Keep your enemies close; but your friends even closer."

It's the opposite
"Keep you friends close and your enemies even closer."
I'm pretty sure that's how the saying goes.

Anyway, at least she knows you are on to her!!

If one of my girls meet my man and try to flirt with him, I won't tolerate that in the slightest. I'm not a violent person so there would be no calling her out but you'd better believe she'll be gettin' an ear full. If as my friend she can't respect me, she doesn't deserve my friendship to begin with!

If I were you I would confront her with words, not just an evil "I know what you did" grin. I'd let her know that shit won't be tolerated in any other situation!

daydreamer · 05-04-2004

naw...it wasn't an evil i know what you did grin...just an evil smirk grin...

everytime i see her so far...it's not by ourselves and i haven't been able to talk to her one on one...but when i get the chance she will get an ear full...

i just feel more sorry for my bf...cause she flirted with him, and when we went back to his dorm that night i was mad...he had to talk me down...

Keet · 05-04-2004

There's no wedding ring on any of your fingers so don't get big head over this, that's just how life goes, some things are beyond our control.

If the problem doesn't settle inself after some time then choose the person you knew longer, and drop the other one. Choosing your partner over a friend is only wrong if you knew that friend for a much longer time.

sivikchik · 05-04-2004

well u go w/ your bad self daydreamer!