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ok so me and my ex-girlfriend of two and a half years broke up i guess permanently. i really care about her a lot even though i'm the one that broke up with her. the reason is because ever since she got this job at hollister she totally changed. what i mean is before she wanted to spend every day with me and stay the night all the time, but since the job i saw her every once in a while and she stayed over like three nights a month. she was always a person that carried herself well and respected her body and never wore ****ty clothes, now today in class she had this skirt on that if she bent over just a little you could see everything also she wore a halter top that girls would only wear to clubs. she has never smoked weed and she isn't a big drinker. but this weekend she got high and got so drunk she was walking around acting stupid telling everybody how she got high. even when we were together she would flirt with guys right in front of my face. i told her what all was bothering about this and she would always cry and say that she's sorry and that she would change but she got worse as days went on. what i want to know is has anyone ever had this happen to them and is this just like a faze she is going through or what. i can't stand to see her anymore because all she does is flirt with guys in front of me, no matter if we are at a party, working out or at class and the clothes she wears makes her look like a little whore. what do you guys think should i just say F*** it and throw everything we had away and just move on or should i try to talk some sense into her.
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damn - where to begin. I don't know how old she is...but...here goes.
Could be that she wants to show you she's doing fine but wound up pushing it to the point of looking bad instead of being missed if you know what I mean.
Could also be that she moved on completely and got some bad fasion and etiquett (sp) tips.
Just talk to her. Tell her that you still care for her and even though you broke up, that you don't want to see her go down a bad path. Tell her you love her it can backfire but it can also mean a lot to her.
u cant change people. if thats how she is now... u cant change it - if u wanna be w/ her then u have to wait it out and see what happens... just dont give her an ultimatum or however u spell it... that will push her away and she will stop confiding in you. even tho all this bothers you, just make sure (if u wanna be w/ her) that she knows youll be there for her... and that u arent judging her, youre just concerned about your relationship. 'das it.
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Sounds to me that she does not respect you nor what you had together. Perhaps give her some space, she will ultimately have to learn the hard way. Whether that would be losing you are herself, one way or another she'll learn..
Definitely don't offer an ultimatum, that would make things worse IMO.
Good luck bro!
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When certain things make you come out of your shell, it just happens. Neither you nor her expected it to happen after all this time, it just did.
IMO, you can't "change" people, they are who they are...people can be supressed a bit and you don't really know who they are but you can't make someone be something they aren't. And maybe she is now doing what she wants to do rather than be someone you want her to be or who you thought she was.
The saying goes...(I think)..."If you love some one set them free, if they come back to you it was meant to be." The only thing I have to say about that is by then you may have moved on but at least you will be the bigger person by doing so. Hope some of this made sense.
yeah man I would say let her go. If she can't respect herself the can't respect you, and her flirting etc .. hats just her way of saying she wants change
All those girls who work at A&F and Hollister completely change.
My cousin, who used to be an angel, is in the 9th grade, goes to parties and is in to the same prep shit and she's gone through more guys than I have girls.. It's a sad society that we live in.
Last edited by 88AccordDX; 04-20-2004 at 02:04 PM.
Let me see if I got this right. You say you broke up with her and it was because she changed after this job she got. Now she is flirting with other guys in front of you. Even though you guys were together for awhile and you really shouldn't be flirting with other people that fast, you can't get mad at her for flirting with other people since you two are no longer together. At the sametime this should tell you something. Did she really care for you all this time? If you've been with somebody that long and really cared for them, you would not be flirting with other people that fast.
It sounds like to me that she didn't care that much or wasn't that serious about the relationship in the first place. Also, if she is already wearing really ****ty cltohes and flirting with guys that fast, DON'T WASTE YOUR TIME! I've been there and done that. Do you both have all the exact same friends that you see her everywhere like you say? Even if she is acting like that only because she doesn't know how to deal with her feelings with the break up, this is a girl you need to stay away from.
Sometimes change is inevitable. It's pretty much the only constant in life. You have to be able to roll in the same direction as the change, but if you find yourself in the situation where you are questioning it, maybe you should seriously consider moving on.
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Originally posted by 88AccordDX My cousin, who used to be an angel, is in the 9th grade, goes to parties and is in to the same prep shit and she's gone through more guys than I have girls.. It's a sad society that we live in.
thanks everybody for the advice, i guess i'm just going to go on with my life without her and just see what happens. but i'm going to still try to be friends with her cause that is what she wants. o yeah she feels like it's not flirting she says she's just trying to be nice, but i see it differently, maybe that's stupid of me. o yeah we have basically all the same friends and we usually always party together so that's why i see her all the time. well here's some pics so you can see what i lost, sorry none with a skirt, but here's two senior pictures of her.
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