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Originally posted by Pharoh That reminds me. I had this friend in College who's g/f used a similar situation to get him to commit more to the relationship by getting a place together. She was telling him she was going to move in with a few guy friends. He pannicked, moved out of the house and got an appartment for the two of them.
That would never work with a guy like me. I'm your worst nightmare: I'm Puerto Rican and I just don't give a fukc. I don't give in to little things like that. If I think you are cheating on me then you're gone; it really is that simple. I don't get jealous (or if I do I rationalize it) about stuff like that. It's better to be occasionally cheated on than perpetually suspicious. I just better not find out because I'll drop your ass like a bad habit.
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Dude man, I wouldn't let that fly if my gf pulled that kind of situation. Especially if these guys weren't old childhood friends or somehow related to her.
Think long term. Sooner or later, you'll crack with jealousy or she'll crack by jamming one of the dudes or some other dude. Long distance relationships are really tough when you're young.
Jealousy is normal and it's nothing to be ashamed of. It's part of who we are and stuff.
yeah i'm not going to stop her or anything. but i've talked to her and she understands where i'm coming from and everything. and those guys appear to be pretty good people.
by now they've pretty much secured a place, its a 3 room with just her and the two guys at this point BUT they're going to get a 4th person. A GIRL, that's what i'm hoping.
i'm not trying to make this such a big deal. its her thing. but for my comfort i'd like another girl with her too, for protection's sake.
i just hope she finds someone.. sadly she doesn't really have that many girl friends here.. so i'm worried and if things go wrong.. 3 guys and 1 girl is kind of ridiculous, especially when none of them guys have girlfriends..
Get her to fit a lock on her bedroom door, maybe? Other than that, all you can do is express your dissatisfaction and trust her judgement. If you trust her, and your relationship is sound, then there's no problem.
For example, my partner has often been to see his son, who lives with his ex (the mother, obviously), and because they live so far away, he has to sleep over, in her living room. I have no problem with this, as he needs to see his son, and his relationship with his son's mother was over and dead years ago, they're just friends now. She also has a new partner, so there's even more reason to trust. I also fully trust my partner's judgement, having been with him for nearly ten years now.
But if there's any doubt about your girlfriend's judgement, maybe the relationship isn't as sound as you'd like? You really have to be open and honest about how you feel about this situation with her, and see what she says. And of course, fit a lock on her door. Meet her flatmates too, and see if you like or trust them, get to know them, maybe make sure to spend a couple or more nights a week over at hers? If you all become friends, then they're probably more likely to see your lass as "off-limits".
Good luck.
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seriously man, what is a relationship, other than a bond between two people, held together by a glue called "trust"! You have to trust her judgements in her decisions, cause there will come a time where you may not be able to make the decision............. and she is the only one that can do it for ya. A little trust can make a relationship an unbreakable bond.
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