Originally posted by 18secQuaterMile just have a "little chat" with the roomates, tell them if they lay a finger on your g/f you'll be back to "see them" and then flash them a gun. they wont even think about your g/f after that.....i know i wouldnt.
wow, that would suck, why is she moving in with two guys? are there no other options?
if it was my gf's only option or i was cool with the guys and know they wouldn't punk me then i might be ok with it, but in fairness she knows i wouldnt live with two girls and she wouldnt room with two guys because of our feelings and respect for one another...
yall need to have a talk, and figure some shit out
I would probably freak out a bit. I have seen too many drunk hookups and instances of cheating for me to trust my girl living with two guys, especially in college. Then again maybe that's the reason I don't have a girl at the moment, haha.
If you are already thinking about it now, it will be ten times worse throughout the year when she is actually living with them....
id wonder first what kind of guys they are. if they are serious about school/work/whatever they do with themselves. if they party too much and pull stupid shit... then id try to hang with them and have "the chat".
honestly though, i would get to know them. i would just earn their respect. i mean, that's the best way. once you know them personally enough, then you can evaluate if theyre good guys for your gf to be with.
btw, how long have you two been dating? who says you will be with her by the time she moves in with them? i feel youre taking a little too much for granted... no offense.
Originally posted by armieo
Or be like.... "It's up to you, but if I were faced with the situation of rooming with two girls, I wouldn't do it for your sake."
damn guys thanks for your inputs, i really agree wit ya armieo, part of it is not that she's living with the guys, but how she's not considering much how i'm feeling about the situation. and yea damn right she's gona start crossing more borders...
here's what imma do, im going to talk to the guys, then i'm going to try to talk her out of it AGAIN, or at least try to get her to get ANOTHER girl to live with them.
I was expecting people to say "it's her choice, don't worry about it, etc", but I'm glad that's not the general consensus around here. HELL YEAH I'D FEEL WEIRD.
It's up to her what she wants to do and who she wants to stay with, but no matter how secure I am with our relationship I would not want her to be living with 2 strange guys.
I know a girl that has guy roomates and she does 'em when she's bored or just needs it. This would also explain why she can't keep a steady b/f.
It's tough sometimes when your g/f has so many guy friends, its not the girl you don't trust - it's the guys, because you know what they're like.
Would I want my g/f living with guys. It would depend. If they were her good friends that she's known longer than me I might be okay with it but I would have to know them well. Then I would wonder why she wasn't just living with me since I live on my own...haha.
Originally posted by ScottieEX damn guys thanks for your inputs, i really agree wit ya armieo, part of it is not that she's living with the guys, but how she's not considering much how i'm feeling about the situation. and yea damn right she's gona start crossing more borders...
here's what imma do, im going to talk to the guys, then i'm going to try to talk her out of it AGAIN, or at least try to get her to get ANOTHER girl to live with them.
someone mentioned brazil?
Talkin to the guys and basically saying that she is off limits will make them want to break the rules don't you think?
Why doesn't she want to live with you? I don't sense much commitment here. And if not, maybe she's just a playa or just too young.
my personal thought is i would be jealous as hell if my gf wanted to live w/a couple of guys, but it's normal to feel weird about a situation like that. it's been said many times that girls get along better w/guys as friends. Just hope that maybe they are gay.
Originally posted by sivikchik girls are whores and guys are pigs. facts of life fly. u get an opportunity and u take it, thats just the way it goes. thats y my bf lives w/ his parents... he cant fcuk them.
Don't generalize your own experiences as standard norms of society. When I was with my ex I would barely ever give another girl the time of day, much less talk to them. It's just out of general respect for the relationship. I have no need to socialize with other women when I've got a gf.
And if you are in a relationship where you have to worry about other women or if you find yourself wanting to attack other guys, then something is wrong. It's not normal and there is no excuse for it. The problem is located more within yourself than within the other half of the relationship.
Originally posted by CarbonFly Don't generalize your own experiences as standard norms of society. When I was with my ex I would barely ever give another girl the time of day, much less talk to them. It's just out of general respect for the relationship. I have no need to socialize with other women when I've got a gf.
And if you are in a relationship where you have to worry about other women or if you find yourself wanting to attack other guys, then something is wrong. It's not normal and there is no excuse for it. The problem is located more within yourself than within the other half of the relationship.
Exactly.
In the ideal relationship, you don't even want to LOOK at another girl for fear of hurting the one you're with! It's not like you have to CREATE a sense of loyalty within yourself...it just sort of happens.
It seems liek she doesn't respect you. You need to also look out for her ... the guys come home drunk lookin for a good time and shes there .. alone and helpless. Those apartment walls are pretty thick
