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well, me and my girlfriend of almost 2 years broke up last night.....she said she needed a break from things.....well of course this is something i didnt want but i had no choice, she told me not to tell my family about it because she wants us to get back together.....well just about an hour ago she text messaged me asking "how are you?'......i didnt reply and im confused on what to do.....this shit is killing me inside, i mean she's my life, everything to me.....i just dont know what to do!!!
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Well the way I see it is that if she wants to come back together after a break you can live without her. Maybe she sees you as a fall back if she doesn't find anybody else. It's better to cut off your ties with her now. No need to stay in one place and wait for her to come around. I don't know your situation but from my experience I can tell you that you should end it now, and let her mourn.
Why did she text message you tonight if she didn't want to be with you?? She wants you to think of her and not see all the other females out there. If she cared about your feelings she would've stuck around and tried to make things work instead of doing what is best for her and leaving you.
Sometimes seperation only takes minutes to make you hate it with everything you have. Don't take things for granted. She's on the other end of a phone and you can get in your car and go to her if you want right now. You don't want to know what real seperation is my friend.
I'm thinking she might have made a mistake and it took her all of a day to see it that way. She messaged you for more than just to say hi. If you really want her then go and get her, sounds like she's waiting under a street light in the rain somewhere.
sorry for the deep thoughts...just a frame of mind right now... lease:
my gf got board of me and wanted to break up with me but I didn't allow it, and we both promised a long time ago if anything bad happens to our relations ship we will always work things out, and I told my gf that and she got tired of comming to my house for the same old me on the computer and she is watching tv.... I told her I would change and I didn't, I think she wanted to leave me because I wasn't giving her enough attention. But now I realized how much she is to me, she is also my life and everything I can't live without her, I think about her everyday. She is my truely one and only love I have ever had. Which means she is my first gf.
Originally posted by Elite my gf got board of me and wanted to break up with me but I didn't allow it, and we both promised a long time ago if anything bad happens to our relations ship we will always work things out, and I told my gf that and she got tired of comming to my house for the same old me on the computer and she is watching tv.... I told her I would change and I didn't, I think she wanted to leave me because I wasn't giving her enough attention. But now I realized how much she is to me, she is also my life and everything I can't live without her, I think about her everyday. She is my truely one and only love I have ever had. Which means she is my first gf.
that is my exact story...for the most part, but she didnt come back to me
i dont know the details about this situation but from what it looks like IMO, shes jerking you around man. she could be wanting to get with someone else but using you as a back up. like someone said she texted you so she knows your thinking about her and no one else. dont be a puppet, if she wanted to be with you she wouldnt have called it off for a break. personally with me if someone calls it off, its off for good with no looking back, i suggest you do the same. odds are it might never be the same, in the back of your mind you'll always be trying to please her so she doesnt call on another "break". sorry man but let her go...
Originally posted by RyceRacing i would text her back and see what happen's
well she just called a little while ago and said "i've been text messaging you," and i told her i know.....she sounded a little upset i didnt reply back.....well she then asked me how was my day....and i said "not good, and im not happy".....then she said well ill let you go, and i asked "why are you doing this?" and then she said i told you i dont want to keep a conversation....so i said bye and hung up, but now she wont take my calls......i think it pissed her off......and about the leaving her alone thing, that's kinda hard, i mean we have been off and on for 7 years (when we first met) and now it's been almost 2 years straight until last night.......she promised me that we're gonna get back together...and she promised that she dosent want anyone else and she dosent want me to be with anyone else.....she asked me not to tell anyone so when we do get back together, people wont treat her differently....she says she wants to get married but now at this moment, she needs time to herself.....im just so confused, i dont know what to think
ok so, she gets mad when you wont answer her texts but then she hangs up in your face and doesnt take your calls? i dunno, this would seriously piss me off. only you know how deep the situation goes, not us. but from what i'm reading, if i were you and after getting hung up on, i would text her back "thanks for memories, peace!"
Originally posted by Pharoh Sometimes seperation only takes minutes to make you hate it with everything you have. Don't take things for granted. She's on the other end of a phone and you can get in your car and go to her if you want right now. You don't want to know what real seperation is my friend.
I'm thinking she might have made a mistake and it took her all of a day to see it that way. She messaged you for more than just to say hi. If you really want her then go and get her, sounds like she's waiting under a street light in the rain somewhere.
sorry for the deep thoughts...just a frame of mind right now... lease:
man just let her go and if she comes runnin' back she yours and if she doesnt come back if wasnt meant to be. then find a new chick that treats u better!!!
Originally posted by 18secQuaterMile ok so, she gets mad when you wont answer her texts but then she hangs up in your face and doesnt take your calls? i dunno, this would seriously piss me off. only you know how deep the situation goes, not us. but from what i'm reading, if i were you and after getting hung up on, i would text her back "thanks for memories, peace!"
yep..couldnt have said it better.....shes playin you...."wait around for me and dont be with anyone while im "alone" and then ill come back to you"...bullsh*t im sorry. dont be a door mat. pick urself up and be with someone that actually wants to be with u in the same way. why fprce someone to be with you that doesnt want to be? then ull spend all ur time trying to make them happy and ull still be miserable. besides it sounds like she prolly got some feelings for another dude somewhere along the way, not that im saying she had done anything with him, but shes "alone" to decide who she wants and to get a feel for other peeps. thats my opinion though. who knows....i say that if she dont wanna be with you she has no right to tell you to not be with anyone else or tell anyone. come on..does anyone else smell control? think about it long and hard. just my female 0.02 cents
I think she just wants attention. If you cant give her constant attention due to work/school/etc, just send her a text message with a little letter, or give her a call, an email. anything when she isnt expecting it. Believe me, it makes things a whole lot better, even when you only see her for a few hours a week, like me.
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The only other thing i can say is go with your instinct on it. I went with my instinct, and it got me a job that i love, and a woman that is my entire life. Your gut knows more than you ever could......
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i dont know what to do..... 
lease: 
i dunno, this would seriously piss me off. only you know how deep the situation goes, not us. but from what i'm reading, if i were you and after getting hung up on, i would text her back "thanks for memories, peace!" 
